Bisexuality Support Group

That's kind of a tough one. Do you really have to "only choose one", though? What I mean is, do you think the woman you're in a relationship would be okay with an open relationship? Have you ever discussed this possibility with her? Does she know your buddy, and does she like and trust him? It's probably not easy, but I would talk to her about it before you do anything with your buddy. It's not just about her, either. You'd be putting a lot of pressure on your friendship with your buddy by asking him to lie.

Yeah, that is a very difficult position to be in. It would be wrong for you to go ahead and do it behind her back - you HAVE to talk to her about it and see if she'd be okay with it, but you also have to be prepared for her answer. What will you do if she says "absolutely not"! Then you have to decide to take a moral high ground. Either break up with your woman and lead the life of a single person with no commitments, or decide to stay with her and be monogamous. Her saying no does not give you the right to "do it anyway", because as you said, it IS wrong.

Being bisexual is no different than being straight when it comes to relationship challenges. If you are no longer happy in a monogamous relationship for whatever reason, you still have to acknowledge that you did indeed make a commitment to the person you're with, and you have to honor that commitment, or break it off.

You have a lot of thinking to do.

Open relationships are the only kind that I can have, personally. That means being able to be with other people, yet still have the love and stability of a committed relationship. I don't think going behind her back is a good idea by any means!

I agree with what brenda9 has said. Honesty is key to a healthy relationship and infidelity is infidelity whether with a woman or a man. If you were single it would not be an issue, but of course there is another person who will be effected by your choice and that is something to consider.

i agree with reply #3, im an open relationship a polyamorous relationship. i would say u need to talk to her about open relationships and see what she says. me and my bf talked about it extensively about me having a gf, but im at the point of breaking up with her.

Agree with everything this group has said. The only thing I would add is that, if you're thinking about it every day, as you mentioned in your post, then you're reaching a crossroads, and you're going to have to take some sort of action. As everyone else has said, the only right thing to do is to talk to the woman in your life and see what happens. Keep in mind, though, that this conversation could go many different ways. At one extreme is the possibility that she's fine with your sexuality and with the idea of an open relationship. At the other extreme is the possibility that she's not okay with any of it and it ultimately costs you the relationship.

In any case, withholding your feelings from her is dishonest and can never end well. Good luck to you, Ced!

How would you explain to your SO if you happen to get an STD or something? At least if you're open with her and tell her your feelings you are BOTH aware of the consequences and she can choose whether or not to give you her blessings. Cheating is cheating..regardless.

Please wear condoms if you are in an open relationship! There is no excuse for getting an STI when condoms really aren't expensive. Would you rather pay for condoms or for the doctor's visit + possibly having herpes, genital warts, or HIV for the rest of your life? No matter what you decide, condoms are the best option!

~C