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My 15yo stepdaughter was disagnosed bipolar about 11/2 yrs ago. Her father and I have been trying to learn the best way to handle her and thus far have been treading water. She is failing high school, she lies about her schoolwork/homework. Today we caught her in a whopper of a lie. She is supposed to come straight home from school, but today she decided to stop off at a friend's house first. I just happened to see her in the neightborhood at 2:45, which meant she would be home within five miniutes. At 3:15 she still wasn't home so her father called her and she told him that she was just leaving school, since she had stayed after to make up a missed quiz. I then called her to offer her a ride home which she refused. Since I knew she was in the neighborhood and was certain which friend's house she was at, I parked a few houses down to catch her leaving her friend's house. I caught her, red handed and all she said was she didn't feel like coming home.
This is not the first time she has been dishonest about coming straight home, but it is the first time we've caught her so blatantly lying to us. As it stands she has few privledges to begin with, so there is nothing to take away from her. We've tried rewards instead of punishment, but she eventually decides she can live without the reward and contiues to fail/let us down. In her eyes she is doing well, and doesn't understand why we don't trust her. Any advice will be most welcomed. Posted on 10/05/09, 04:10 pm |
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I know exactly how she feels. I feel the same way. I've got depression and an anxiety disorder, as well as a few others. She feels that where she is is her comfort zone. She's in a rut she likes to be in. She just wants you to leave her alone. Now obviously if she's failing and not doing her best you may need to step it. I'm supposed to be taking lexapro, but i refuse, but if she isn't on medication already, consider it. Or if she is, try some new medication because it clearly isn't working. No reward or punishment will help her. She knows you won't beat her or anything, and in some cases she might want you to take something away (like a pet or friendship) so she has reason to want to run away or do something worse.
Besides the medication suggestion, i would try talking to her one to one. I don't know the whole step daughter situation, but she might not want to talk to you because your not her real mother, or even if things have been great since she was younger and now are strange, she may be realizing your not her real mom and feels less comfortable about it. If she doesn't own a pet, maybe consider one? Even a lizard, or a hamster or ferret. Something she has to take care of and can love. But if you think she'd try to kill or something, then don't get her one. Idk if this will help it's hard to explain :l But i'm doing what she is doing. Failing, wanting death, hiding it from most people. But my kittens are the only reason i don't kill myself. 
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I am a mom who has a daughter with amjor depresso and opositiinal defiance disorder, but there is suspicion that she is bipolar. She will be 18 in 2 months. If you have the money I would send her to a "boarding school"that specializes in tis stuff. I soooooooooooo wish we would"ve done it and now it's too late!
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hey sorry to here that! keep your chin up! o and you have one more opshin! enbrassment! If I were you I would go right up to her in school and give her a big kiss! I know that is probably mean but it will get her to pay atenchen cause she will hate it my mom did it to me and! nope I have done my homework since! She pulled out the baby pics in the middle of my class and told the stories even!! I got picked on for a month and I never want to do that agian! then every day she had to pick me up for school and if I didnt go with her mom would find her brightest lipstick and gave me a kiss! and I could not get it off! so every time she dose wrong give her the biggset kiss in the reddest lipstick you could ever find show she cant get it off!
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