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Ok well about a three months ago I met the most amazing guy ever. We dated for about a month an some odd weeks. Then we ended up breaking up. We had a great relationship up until about the second week. The first week was great. Then the second week is when we started having problems. We started fighting an he said I wasn't acting the way I was when we started dating. I knew he was right. I do that all the time. I act like a completely different person then I really am. Its because I don't like the way I am. I thought if I acted different then he would give me a chance. He told me if I would of just acted like myself he would still have dated me. As the days went by I started being mean. I started letting the bio polar show through. I am on medication for it but I struggle a lot with it. I am on a very high dose of medication an the doctors are trying to figure out what more to do. Anyways, We have been broke up for about a month now but we both want to get back together but I am scared. I dont want to hurt him again. I love him. I am scared I am going to be mean an he is gonna leave me for good. I have absolutely no clue what to do. This is kind of why I signed up for this. I think if I maybe talk about my feelings an emotions on here it will help me so this way I wont take it all out on him. I don't want to lose him again. I don't know if I should go to counseling or what. So please if any one has any kind of advise can you please give it to me. thanks.
Posted on 09/07/09, 12:09 am |
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I think its good that you are on medication yet i think counseling might be a good option just because if you dont know too much about it, you can learn more and learn how to control it a little more. Did you show him when you first started to date that you had bipolar or not? im sorry i am a little confused just because if he knew then he wouldnt really have a problem with it. And you also need to talk to him about everything and both express how you feel. 
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I agree with Sugarbee. Counseling combined with medicine always works best. I only had 2 relationships and they both started and ended like yours did. I had my 1st boyfriend Samuel ,my freshman year,right after I found out I was bipolar.Needless to say ,I ruined the relationship by my moods. My advice is to be upfront with him,show your true personality.NEVER tell anyone your age you are bipolar though or you are on meds. People will alienate you. At least that is what happened to me. I wish you all the luck and if you want to chat just hugbook me =]
Becca
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For sure tell him your bipolar, and explain your moods and all that. Thats what I did with my last boyfriend of like 2 years right away, cus then hell if they can't deal with that, then they'll leave and as much as that will likely hurt, remember they couldn't have been the right person or loved you right in the first place.
My guy was super understanding, researched it, put up with me when I was off meds which I did a lot...you are VERY smart to stay on them, I'm an idiot. But we definitely didn't break up over that, and when we did it was chill we are best friends still. So I really hope your guy will be understanding, at least if youtell him everything he'll know you have an actual reason for your actions and your not just some crazy bitch. Good luck!! And of course Bob Marley said it best, Don't Worry, be Happy.
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I just read BeccaING post...I don't know to a point she's right, some people won't get it but screw them they weren't good friends in the first place. Maybe be selective about who you tell if you are still in high school or something because it's true those kids can be so mean. But friends...should know I think. Up to you of course! Just throwin it out there. I told my closest friends, one was an asshole about it but the rest were very nice. Never mentioned it to anyone else either when I asked, so if you do tell and don't want others to know just ask them to keep it to themselves.
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