Bipolar Disorder Support Group

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Honestly, this is not to be rude or anything, but you've made this same post before and I am confused about what you're looking for in the responses to posts like this one. Validation that you're right to be resentful of your husband's attitudes? Shared experiences from people with unappreciative partners, or partners that are too demanding? Refutation of low-self esteem based on weight issues? A place to vent or seek sympathy? If we don't understand what you're looking/asking for, how can anyone respond with something that's going to be useful for you?

~b.

I guess maybe understanding. I just wanted to vent and have some people understand....to be validated. I know that there's probably going to be no solutions to my problems. I am just destined to be unhappy and miserable for ever and I should learn to expect that nothing in my situation is going to change.

BPP your situation will only change when your mind set does. I am not suggesting that you don't have a right to be royally peed off with your husband but only you can find the silver lining and until you do every situation is going to be miserable for you.

gonna add my 2 cents, though with me it ends up being more like 5--LOL.

I heartily agree with solongago--how is anything in your life going to be better, or more fulfilling, or healthy and healing, if all you're doing is complaining? We survive by holding onto hope and believing in the silver lining, even on the days we can't really see it. Granted, we all have bad, horrible, excruciatingly painful days, but self-pity is not helpful. A "woe is me" attitude never allows for betterment, a greater belief in self, or any type of agency--where you realise that you have to act instead of being acted on, in order to have any control over your life.

You are not "destined" for anything and giving into a defeatist attitude isn't going to get you wny further on the path to wellness and stability. You have to choose, make decisions, set a schedule--whatever, but don't blame others when you're not doing anything to change the situation and then say you're "destined" to be miserable. That's called a self-fufilling prophecy.

Someone gave the most excellent advice other day (and no I don't remember who or in what post), I think it applies applies here, and should be taken it in the spirit that it was meant. Pull on your big girl panties, and get to it.

I don't clean my house when I'm unhappy I just zone out and become a vegetable. Husband doesn't help much unless he knows and senses I'm going down. Hope you get some more assistance (help).

tell him its both ur house and both your mess its not just your job to clean

if he truly is what you say he is in all of your posts that is emotional abuse and like i have said many different times....give him the boot. for the love of dog make a decision. if you are going to stay with him then do what needs to be done. we all have to do it, as much as we hate it, it is a fact of life. if you have a cleaning person you should only have to pick up a little bit. wipe down the bathroom once a week, do the dishes for health reasons alone and vacuum, especially if you have pets. it has to be done. and i agree with what someone said that the boohoo is a self fufilling prophecy. do one task besides dishes and cooking everyday. think of something that you could be doing instead of being on the computer.