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When I'm not happy it's a strain to do chores around the house
Because the hubby always pressures me and tells me how I've become obese because I am fat and lazy and because I don't do as much house keeping as I used to. I'm finding household chores too much because of school work two research papers and two novels and also because I am not happy because I have a low self esteem due to weight issues. And the hubby doesn't really appreciate me anyway. And chores are a vicious cycle. I've neglected my cleaning two weeks in a row because of school work and he constantly pressures me into doing more but he doesn't understand how hard it is for me to do the cleaning that i do do now. I wish he'd help me out more but he says he shouldn't have to help clean and work too. He does help some with laundry and sometimes he cooks.....but getting him to help more is like preaching to the choir. Posted on 11/10/09, 08:11 pm |
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From other posts of yours that I've read, your husband doesn't seem very supportive and seems to put you down and do a real job on your self-esteem. Would he consider couple's counseling?
I understand the lack of motivation to do household chores. I'm very behind in my household work because of being overwhelmed with so many things going on and because I've been sleeping too much. I'm trying to find ways to motivate myself to get caught up around the apartment. Good luck to you. 
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sorry to point this out, but I have to know.....you've stated what he DOES help with, and that you haven't dont anything for 2 weeks? Look if you BOTH are busy then you should BOTH do them.....not just him, and not just you. Sorry to sound like him, but if my wife didn't do anything for 2 weeks......I think I would have to say something also
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I have ran the dishwasher both week and last week I did do up all the laundry. I should have stated that. I've also cooked every day of the week because I've had to so it's not like I didn't do anything because I did. I just didn't clean the kitchen or bathroom for two weeks in a row.
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Ok, I was married for 12 years to a man who thought I was his mother. The answer is get a cleaning lady/ crew. it is worth it
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If you're a stay-at-home wife, why should your husband help with the chores. I mean, he is working full time and you expect him to come home exhauted and start cleaning for you.
C'on Princess, that just isn't fair to him. He should be able to walk into a clean house after a hard day of work, and what do you do all day, sit on your ass and do absolutely nothing. You should do what I do. I pick one thing a day to do each day like vacuum one day, clean the bathroom the next, etc., so by the end of the week the whole house is clean an then you can relax a couple to a full day. The only thing my husband does is bring the laundry up and down the stairs because of my bad back and it helps me immensively. So please stop being a cry baby and complaining because your husband works all day long and shouldn't have to help you with your chores.
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well, that's a far cry from NOT doing anything.....if you think the chores need to be evened out since you are both busy, then make a chore chart and put both your names on it. Tell him if he doesn't do his part to keep a clean household...then keep his mouth shut...
That's what I would do in your shoes
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My mother in law does pay a cleaning lady once or twice a month to come and clean the house but the husband always bitches that she has to come clean and he complains that she is essentially doing my job. Either way he complains.
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Sounds like he has bigger issues than an unclean house
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He has huge codependency issues and major depression.
But he says he can only afford me to see a pdoc he says insurance doesn't cover enough for him to get the care that he needs so he refuses to get help.
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Btw, you told me repeatedly that you have me on ignore. I don't believe you as far as I can throw you because you responded to a post I did the other day and said, "I don't know why I see this because you are on Ignore" and proceeded to tell me to leave FOD alone, so you gave it way right there. You are probably just not responding to my replies. to make it look like you have me on Ignore.
I'm gonna say it again, I think you are really starting to believe you are a real Princess.
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