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Well, I have a friend I am avoiding. I know she's been affected by the shootings at Fort Hood. She never checked on me this week when I was doing really poorly. I know she'll trigger me. Is it selfish of me to avoid her knowing right now trying to help will make things bad for me? Or is it OK to take care of myself? I'm never one to take care of myself so I'm having trouble with this. I always try to be there for my friends and family.
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I think first and foremost you have to take care of yourself. Otherwise, you could never be there for anyone else. Just my 2 cents worth. I hope you have a good day. 
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It is totally ok.
we have to learn to take care of ourselves without being weighed down with guilt otherwise we end up getting ill. If you're worried about her try sending an e-card with your sympathies? Then she knows you care but you dont have direct contact with her
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I think that at the moment, you should be doing all that you can to avoid triggers!!!! There's nothing selfish about you doing all that you need to do to keep yourself well!!!
Hugs!! Take good care!
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That was really good advice chocomonster.....gotta hand it to ya I would have never thought of that. I agree ask her for her email and send her a card.
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i agree with all that has been said
Its important and responsible to keep ourselves well. We can help others when we first help ourselves You have nothing to feel guilty about There is help for your friend if she reaches out for it. Perhaps a professional is what she needs now Big hug of comfort for you
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I think I will send her an e-card. I know she'll call me afterward, but I can send her call to voicemail and call her back when I am ready. I really have had a tough week - trip to the ER and all. I haven't put any pressure on myself this weekend and I'm doing a little better. I'm so afraid of being back in that awful place again. I know that this will trigger me.
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I sent her the ecard. What do I do if she calls? Should I let her go to voicemail and call her when I can? What if she calls my house instead of the cell phone? Should I have my husband tell her I'm not there?
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Maybe have him tell her you're not feeling well.
If she calls put it to voice mail?
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If she calls, do whatever you can in the nicest possible way to avoid taking the call. If you have your husband give her a message, I'd say go with the 'you're not feeling well'. If he says that you're not home, she may call back sooner.
Hugs!! Don't let worrying about her contacting you drag you down, if you can at all help it!!! This is time for YOU time. Protect yourself as best you can and just try to relax!!!
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She has a habit of calling both my cell and the house phone. I will have hubby say I'm not feeling well.
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