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If you want to keep her for a friend then accept that she does this and learn to not be bothered. If you don't want to keep her as a friend then blast her with the reality of her behavior. You get to decide. I know I want to be accepted by my friends too and it's not like I don't have any quirks!

good point. thanks for replying.

I think we all have people who don't listen to reason.....even us sometimes do not.
But like tommy said....it's just your friend. You may love them and think more of them than your own family, but another persons choices are not yours to control. Give your tow cents, and if they do not take your advice, then let them make the mistake.
There's really nothing that you can do to make them listen, so say your peace and let it stand at that............my two cents

Dumpp her she's not healthy for you I went through the same thing.

My question would be can you trust her; if she tells you that she will do something and doesn't do it . . . well, sounds like she is lying.

I can understand extenuating circumstances or just plain forgetting something once in a while. If this happens on a regular basis . . . if you can't trust or depend on her for anything at all, I think I would look at the pros and cons of the friendship.

What perks does she get for being friends with you? Are you always there for her, always willing to help out, always willing to go out of your way if she really needs something from you?

What perks do you get out of being friends with her?

Doesn't sound like she is dependable; perhaps she lies never intending to follow through~~apparently she doesn't care whether she disappoints you or lets you down if she keeps doing this over and over.

Maybe she is just a user. There are lots of users out there and they prey on friendly, compassionate, dependable people~~people who don't want to hurt their feelings.

You can be friendly to anyone, but true friendship requires equal effort from both parties. You aren't rude when you express your concerns to a friend~~tell her how you feel when she doesn't follow through~~not as if it is a surprise to her~~she knows she isn't doing what she said she would. We all know when we have dropped the ball and most of us feel really disappointed in ourselves and concerned for the people we let down, and we try to do better next time because we care about our friends.

Chronic repeat offenders are rude and they don't care who they hurt or disappoint so they do the same thing over and over again as long as they can get away with it.

Whenever I hear someone say that she doesn't want to hurt someone's feelings, I usually think she is compassionate and caring.

Whenever that same person expresses hurt and disappointment and still holds back for fear of hurting someone's feelings, I think that she doesn't believe she is worthy of the same compassionate and caring that she gives to others.

Taking concern for your friend's feelings out of the picture, how do you feel? What do you need? What is in your best interest?

It is possible to be friendly and do what is in your own best interest.

Hugs

just tell her to get her act together and stop messing around BE FIRM but friendly in this approach and dont let her tell u any diffrent their

Some days I'll say Im going to do something like fix the fencing but I don't get around to it cause my meds make me tired.
Or do you mean it differently?

lf she's not hurting you then accept her for who she is people are different and why hurt a friends feelings there could be a 1001 reasons why she lacks motivation but has lots of ideas.....lol she sounds like me

I would be kindly honest with her, explaining how her decisions are making you feel.....then depending on her reaction accept her as is or move on at a distance

Sounds like someone I know.......................hmmm