Bipolar Disorder Support Group

You are punishing yourself for something that is not your fault and inflicting more pain on yourself won't solve your problems. How is it going to help you? Be reasonable. Step back a bit. Things aren't going well right now but hurting yourself is just what he wants you to do to prove that you can't handle yourself. It will just prove his point. Put the hammer down. You will get through this. Take a deep breath. Don't give them reason to believe you are not competent.

I'm not competent or I wouldn't be in this position. I never would have took him home if I was competent. I never would have married him. Hurting myself will help because then there will be justice. I deserve it.

It was HIS fault for raping YOU. Not YOURS. You have suffered enough. Stop this. Forgive yourself. Put the hammer down!!

I knew better than to bring him home. I knew I should have called the police. I knew I should have run as far away from him as possible... but I thought I could fix it and no one would have to know I was a slut.

It was STILL HIS FAULT!!! YOU WERE NOT A SLUT!!!! You're thinking about this is all wrong. You FELT responsible. But you never were. Stop blaming yourself.

Everyone else blames me... are they ALL wrong? I doubt it. They know me better than you do...

You are a scapegoat. I believe they are being unjust. IMHO. In any case, rape is never the woman's fault. EVER.

Lily YOU know you were raped or you would never use the word and it was NOT your fault. I can't explain why people label us and prefer to place us in a certain box to make themselves feel better or superior to others.

lt looks as though you were labelled 'easy' which must have cut deeply, so you tried very hard to make 2 wrongs right...not your job to do either....so what more can they ask of you. Stop letting family take even more of who you are and taint it, leave them at arms length and accept that they may never acknowledge that you have done well with your life.

You are a great mother who fights everyday an illness and to be the best partner and mummy, l pray you find peace Lily and not walk away but turn away from anyone who cannot support this.

well done to have survived all the abuse you have gone through. you were the victim here and in no way is it your fault. my brother has a great saying 'is he paying you rent to be in your head?!' you sound like a strong person to keep going as you have. will think of you.

Lilly, hurting yourself any more than you are already hurting wont solve anything. It wont even stop the emotional pain very long and I think you know that from past experience.

Hurting yourself will only give them more proof to use against you in their plight to prove you are incapable of raising your children. If you love your children, consider that. Consider how much you want to keep them........You are in a very fragile state of mind right now and you have to consider yourself first right now.

Please call your pdoc, please call your case worker and your attorney about all of this mess with your children. These thoughts are destructive and the next step will be suicidal ideation....you know the pattern!!!! Take care of it before you get to that point......Hugs