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Must come to an end. My wife says she is leaving me. And she also says that she is talking both of my kids with her. I am soo sad right now. What can I do to prevent this??? What rights do I have as a disabled person who loves his children and can't live with out them?? I couldn't live without my kids, but she doesn't care how it will kill me to be without them. I am pondering acting first. KInd of like a first strike type of thing. I am at a loss for words right now, and I have no idea which way to turn. I have come to love you guys and I value any ideas that you might have. I know this is just a shortened version of todays events as I do not want to bad mouth her, but it seems that I am being forced to act first. My mind is going a thousand different ways at the same time. I know that the relationship is past saving, but that no longer is a concern to me. It's just that it seems as though she has been planning this for awhile now behind my back. It hurts to be lied to, but my real pain isn't about losing her....to be blunt I could care less. But to be without my kids....well I know that I would end up doing something rash, and I don't want that. I need them as much as they need me. They keep me grounded far better than any med I have ever taken. If it wasn't for them I would have been in the loney bin long ago. I know that this is a personal thing and none of you can really intervene in any way that would solve my problems, but I needed to get this out to someone, as my family has disowned me. I am okay right now...just a little in shock.
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yes I agree....I think that she is more nuts than I am....I know I could have a few people on my side here, but I don't know many. I know of no one here that would be on her side. She is a terrible mother and a horrible wife. If only she could have waited until I got my money.....*sigh* Now I am going to have to sell my home and everything in it just to make sure I have the finances to fight for the kids....and by doing this...I will have to move in with family or friends...again, she doens't seem to care what effect it will have on the kids or their lives, as long as she gets what she wants.... 
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call a lawyer now and get advice, so you don't make any legal mistakes that will come back to haunt you later. Sorry this is happening to you. Father's have rights
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I agree with dustylu 100%: call a lawyer asap. Good luck. Sorry this is happening to you madmark.
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I went through the same thing twice...call a lawyer yesturday!!
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I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. It really is terrible how unbalanced the 'injustice system' is. But knowing that is power. Use it to your avantage.
Imagining that you have to sell the house and belongings to fight for the children may be premature and add undue anxiety. Shoot the what-if bird so that you can think more clearly. Many lawyers will give a free consultation - take advantage of that ASAP as the others have recommended. There may be some type of order that prevents her from taking the children out of the county until things are settled in court. Also, there may be a self help office within the family court building. They can help you figure out which forms to fill out and even help you fill out the parts you're unsure of. They were very helpful to me when filing a restraining order and legal separation. All the best to you! Please let us know how it goes today. We're routin' for you MadMark! ~Nettie
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Please go see an attorney ASAP! You don't have to tell her that you're doing this!!!!Keep the lines of communication open with her, and stay as calm as you can. Tell her you love her (if you do) and taking the kids away from you is not an option, definitely not a good choice for you or for the kids.
More later. Good luck! Judith
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Agree with the others. You need legal counsel. Call friends to get a good recommendation for a good lawyer. Call at least one. Call many if you want.(I called 7) Do a web search. Every state/country is different on divorce laws.
If she has counsulted a lawyer ............. maybe she has and maybe she hasn't........... she is at least one step ahead of you. She may be 4 steps ahead of you. The 5th step is being served. This gives the person being served 24 hours to vacate the home. Now it sounds like she just plans on leaving......... Ask yourself..............does she have legal counsel?? Or not?? Because you may or may not wish to proceed..................but it is nice to know the recommended legal steps ..........if that is the path you choose to take............................... And that is a HARD decision b/c it is a HARD path!! (sigh) (sigh) I am so sorry you are going through this. How old are your kids??
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Our local NAMI also had legal counsel numbers to call...............so support groups may also be helpful.
I am sooooooooooooooo terribly sorry you are going through this. : (
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This happened to me....while I was sick....you seem stable, if she cannot prove you are unfit, or unstable, your seeing a pdoc, therapist, have a job??? then you should be ok. Go to a lawyer that deals with dad's rights....get someone cutthroat, and by all means do not tell her anything. You might want 50/50 joint custody.... that's a lot easier. Good luck. It's hard not having your kids all the time, but you get used to it after you cried a bucketfull of tears.
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