What is Bipolar Disorder
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This may be out of left field, but I wondered if anyone out there who is bipolar II or married to a bipolar II could discuss the impact of the disease on a marriage.
I won't go into all the details, but I have strong reason to believe my spouse is bipolar II. However, she has moved out and is now seeking a divorce. I wanted to know if being bipolar II may be playing a role in that decision. (No one has been able to discuss our suspisions about her disorder with her because of the current situation.) There has been no infidelity, abuse, etc. that would be a logical explanation for her recent actions. A great deal of her anger is hard to understand (for both me and members of her family) and does not seem to correspond in intensity to the things she says made her angry. Also, she won't really specify what problems she sees in the marriage, beyond a vague description of being unhappy. She now refuses to go to marital counseling although the first few sessions went well. I have read that those with bipolar will often suddenly leave a spouse and a relatively happy marriage during a manic stage, but I wasn't sure if the same thing occurred when someone has bipolar II. Can anyone give me some insight? Thanks. Posted on 12/11/06, 03:12 pm |
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i am not sure if this will help. i was married and have a son that is bipolar. when they get into the manic stage u cannot reason with them. they become very angry and parniod. the feel unhappy alot of times so the keep trying to feel better thru self medicating and anything that would help. 
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I have been there myself. I had to leave her after almost 13 years of marriage. Her condition must have deteriorated to the point that, despite everything I have done for her, all the time I have been there for her, etc. Feel free to email me, IM me, etc. My contact methods are on my page.
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OMG. I can't believe i am reading these posts. I am so torn. Everyone, my parents, my therapist, etc. wants me to annul our 3 month marriage but how could i do that to someone i love so much?
Any advice?
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I know you want to help her, if you can. But in all honesty, I've been told that 80% of all relationships in which one partner is bipolar, fail. I know you still love her, and want to be there for her--but it all comes down to this: You still have to look out for yourself. It was my wife who eventually brought out the bipolar in me. I think it was there all the time; it was just the stress of having to take care of her, my daughters (which I lost to CS), and myself and my job. I wish you the best of luck, and that we are here for you. I'm not saying to dump her; that would be bad for the both of you as long as you love her as much as you do. I can tell you this: the road ahead is going to be about as smooth as #4 sandpaper covered in scorpions. Whatever you decide, we are here for you.
Good luck and Blessed Be
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Hummm.... Are you what I think you are? Not all people use the term blessed be.
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Wow, what a similar set of circumstances! I am going through the very same thing. Is the \"anger\" a manic or depressive trait?
Are you going ahead with a divorce?
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Boy do I know how you feel. I am married to a man with bipolar II with dillusional effects. I have been through it all, affairs, abuse, drugs & alcohol. Then at the worst(before he was diagnosed), he tried to overdose and almost did it. That landed him in a mental hospital for 6 1/2 months. When he got out things were really good. Now (2 years later) he is back to being dissatisfied with our marriage and absolutely everything that goes on. If you really love her stay if not leave. I know that sounds real easy to do but in my opinion a person who is bipolar can be the most loving and giving person in the world when they are stable. Is that enough to carry a relationship? I don't know, all I know is that I've been with mine for 9 years and I wouldn't change it for anything. The good times definetly outway the bad. Hang in there.
Teri
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All I can say is, after having experienced Mania for months at a time..it is Horrible. Please bear with your loved one and be involved with the doctor too. I felt like my entire body was going to explode and felt that I was rushing through space at a phenomenal speed and I couldn't stop. And Anger, yes..lot's & lots of anger. Over little things and sometimes over nothing. I couldn't help it, it was just there. Nothing anyone did caused it. Please talk to the doctor to make sure your loved one is on the correct medication. There are lots out there that will bring him/her down. Not pleasant side effects, but it will stop the cycle.
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Hi, I am a BP2 spouse and my husband and I have had to go to counseling due to this. We have not given up yet and refuse to do so until even single avenue has been look into. I at times too wanted to give up on marital counseling cause it was hard to see myself through my husbands eyes. That is not easy actually very difficult and makes you want to throw in the towel a lot faster, but sometimes I hid my feelings from him and pretend all is well to just give him some reprieve and being BP is not easy for any spouse to deal with.
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I use to leave my kid father all the time for little things. Sometimes i felt i wasn't worth living in a relationship with him in Long Island. I would move in and move out all the time. Now when i think about it it probably did have to do with mania.
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