Bipolar Disorder Support Group

I've heard of Hello Kitty but not Hello People. I get what you mean. Is this mostly people IRL because if you lay it out for us here we'll be glad to help. My own experience is that the people close to me and around me might be well-meaning but they're worthless for personal stuff. So here we are on the message board. Now that your vent is over what's up?

People will take as much as you give until you have nothing left. Especially those in our inner circle, the ones we care for and trust the most. You have to set limits and be a little selfish for your own good. Just say "No" or "Now is not a good time, can I get back to you" or "Now that we've talk about you, here's my problem."

It's a difficult position being that go-to person, but it says a lot about you, the fact that people trust you to be that person for them and it's okay to be that person, but not at the expense of your own needs.

Set some boundaries. Be good to yourself.

Good luck.

This is where my favorite quote comes in. "Never make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option". You are just as important as they are and if they are true to you, they should be there for you. Yet I am also in the same place you are. I feel for you.....

I completely feel the same way. My friends are always coming to me for advice...about trivial things. Usually boys they have crushes on, or their parents are annoying them, or they're not doing well in school. And when I'm suicidal and crying and I need advice no one is there. But I wouldn't want to talk to them anyway, everyone I know is shallow :'-( they keep saying "I'm here if you need me" but they're never actually there. I don't know how long I can keep this up. Good luck to you, I hope we both find some kind of solution

Been that person forever...for friends and family. The primary reason is that I am usually the level headed person/most experienced person, who can give constructive advice to people. Second, I don't care much about myself. If I could give my life so that the whole world could be happy I'd already be dead. Third, I feel good helping people with problems I can tackle. Sadly, being this person usually means there aren't going to be many people, if any,who can offer you advice. This is especially true with my friends who have bp. None of them have ever been there to support me and I always end up being there for them...However, this could just be me being me...not caring about myself and not asking for help. But I think that's why they come to us...because we take care of ourselves without anybodys help...its part of what makes us strong. Don't be sad. I think its a gift to be able to help so many, even if we're alone at the end of the day.

Are you letting people know that you need help? I am also the shoulder to cry on for people in my life. Often times, they will see you as so logical and put together when really on the inside you are screaming. People aren't always to swift in picking up on things. If you have made it clear and said "I really need to talk to you" and they blow you off, they are not good friends to start with.

I have a friend on here that is there for me no matter what. In real life, like ppl I can see everyday, I have no one. They want me to be there for them, but they don't return it either. So all I have is my computer buddies. Wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but all I can say is to hang in there. (((((hugs))))