Bereavement - Teens Support Group

My dad was an alocholic who used to drive drunk, and this was my biggest fear. I would have felt so guilty if he killed someone, like it was completely my fault. And I'm so so sorry that it happened to you. My heart truely goes out to you.

Death and rapes of loved ones is so hard, but self injury isn't your best option. I would never judge you, and if you ever want to talk to someone, just vent or anything, send me a message or something and I'd be glad to lend advice or just a listening ear. I highly doubt that a professional would judge you either. There are so many other people who are struggling like you and unfortunately turn to self injury, so you're not some freak that they would send off to the circus. They want to help you so you can be the happiest, healthiest person you can be. Hang in, and I'm here for you if you need someone.

Thank oralie. Some people just give an air of judgement when they look at you. Especially people from my church. They don't know how truely hard it is to go through this. My friend is more like a sister to me and the worst part is that we both cut ourselves for a long time. But now we are more of a support team for eachother. Ya know? We both just seem to know what the other is going through. I was sexually abused and beaten when I was a little kid. It still hurts though. Unfortunately there are some "professionals" who still judge you. I am however starting to see a psychiatrist. Hopefull I can helped, I just hope things don't change to much for others to see. I put up a facade quite well, too well if you ask me. It took 3 years for people to start seeing a problem. I just became to weak emotionally and physically to care about what others think like that.

The death of a loved one is the hardest thing that anyone ever has to go through. I lost my mom recently and i have been struggling. I see a therapist twice a week. I started seeing one long before my mom ever past away because i was going through and dealing with a lot of things. These professionals are there to help you. That is their job. And they can help. Trust me i used to do a lot of unhealthy things in order to cope and after a long time i am finally overcoming these things. However, the only way they can help is if you want their help. I resented having to go to therapy and I would not cooperate and that got me no where. Eventually I decided that i needed the help.
Also remember that if you do end up seeing a professional and you feel as though they are judging you or making you feel uncomfortable in anyway, you do not have to go back. Try another one. I saw 4 different therapists before i found one that I felt comfortable talking to.
Please get help. If you need to talk about anything I am hear. good luck

I can relate to an extent. My boyfriend got killed in a car accident around 3-4 yrs ago. It was one for those freshman first boyfriends. It was the driver than was drunk he was in the car with. it was him, the driver and his friend. His Kevin (that was his name) and his friend died, the driver, Kevins best friend survived after getting drunk at a party. I found out and I died inside. He was my first boyfriend ever. My first actual guy I loved besides my dad. I started cutting for awhile as well. I stopped after I saw a therapist. Talking to someone really helped me, i haven't accepted that he is gone yet but it is good to talk to someone and cry. He would have graduated hs with me last month. I know he is watching me and he is with me in heaven. I listen to music a lot. That has helped me. If you need to talk, I am always here. Seriosuly.