What is Bereavement
Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...
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So on the 24th october my stepmum passed away from cancer, i will explain the full story.
Around 4 or 5 years ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer and we almost lost her, it was pretty touch and go for a while but she was trong and pulled through it, i was only 11 at the time and didn't quite understand but it was hard for all of us. At the time i was living with my dad and my stepmum, and my father and she had been together since i was around 1 so naturally she was like a mother to me, i even call her mum. I moved out of my fathers house when i was 15, and around 4 weeks ago mum started to get quite ill again, she collapsed and when she woke up she rang her sister (my aunty jean) and moved into her house for jean to look after her. 2 and a half weeks ago she was admitted into hospital after tests that showed the cancer had come back, and was given months to live, they said she would be lucky to see Christmas. 2 days later (the thursday before her death) they had done more tests and found cancer in her stomach, liver, other breast and parts of her brain and they gave her 2 days to live. For the whole of thursday and friday i spent the whole day at the hospital with her, by her side as much as i could just to be with her. On the saturday i had plucked up the courage to go to my part time job, my shift was 1.30 - 5.30, at around 12.30 i had got out the shower to get ready for work and got a phone call off my Aunty Jean telling me mum had passed away at two minutes to 12 that afternoon. Sorry it took so long just to take you that bit! The reason i'm putting it on here is because i just don't know how to cope, it doesn't feel like it's going to get any better, and i know in the back of my mind it will eventually but it doesnt seem like it will. I just burst into tears at the most random times and i just dont feel like going into college at all :( i think i need some help with this :( Posted on 11/08/09, 06:11 pm |
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Stackee,
I send my thoughts and prayers to you and your family for your loss. Bursting into tears is normal and not wanting to go to college at the moment is normal as well. When things fall apart, it takes time to pick up the pieces and fit them back into place and even then there are pieces that will always be missing. In time, and I say this as I am going through the same thing, things will start to pick up again, for all of us. The waiting game is hard but we must be strong. Remember that crying is not a sign of weakness and you need to let your emotions out. Joining this site is but one step in helping you. Speak out about your feelings as you have done, and keep doing so. There are so many here to support you. 
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Dear Stackee, I am so very sorry for your loss.
It is ok to cry, like bluz29 said. It will get better, I know you know that. But I also know right know it does not seem like it will. It is ok to take some time off. But also is important to keep going to school, It helps (sometimes) to be around people. Also helps to keep to a routine. It kind of kept me on track, sometimes. Keep posting here on DS, we will help you through .... There is also the Motherless Daughter site. hugs!!! Deb
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