What is Bereavement
Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...
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Hello everyone. I lost my mom 3 years and almost 8 months ago. It still feels like yesterday. It was probably the worst thing that could of happened to me. I don't understand how everyone else just goes on. It's like there is this massive hole where she use to be and everyone just steps around it or ignores it. Like im the only one that can see it. No one really talks about her. I know if I were gone I wouldn't want to be forgotten or ignored. Anyways that's about it.
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Welcome to bereavement. I am sorry to hear of your loss. You are right about that hole. It can never be filled but you can learn to live with it. Make Mom a part of who you are and her memory ever in your heart! 
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I like what you said about when you are gone, we do not want to be forgotten. I feel that way when I talk about my father and brother. I don't want them to be forgotten and I know they won't, but people don't like to talk about them because it hurts them so much. I try to talk about them, but others can't deal with it, so I don't. But sometimes I just want to get together with all my family and just talk about them... but I know that isn't going to happen.
Peace to you!
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Hi Silentjoe, I lost my mother almost 9 months ago. I feel exactly the way you do. I keep saying that I hope with time it gets better. But, I am not sure if it will. I just posted on my FB yesterday that since Mom is gone, there is a Huge Hole in my family. And it is so visible everytime everyone is in the same room. Just know that you are not alone. There are others that share your pain. Your Mother will always be with you in your heart. She will never be forgotten because you won't let that happen. God Bless.
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Hi I am new here as well, lost my Dad 4 months ago. I totally understand how you feel. I dont want my father forgotten. I love him so much. The pain is really overwhelming. We are all here for you. We will all make it.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. Maybe people around you just can't seem to handle grieving and block it out, it is a mechanism to not feel hurt or pain - they just repress their thoughts, feelings and emotions - as if she was never there. Just remember no one can ever replace your mother and she seems like she was an extremely important person in your life. Though there is a void in your heart and soul because of your mother's passing, just remember she is still there with you.
I'm here if you need support. Take it one day at a time.... I live by this daily since the passing of my aunt in 2007.... "As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on - in the hearts of everyone you touched and nurtured while you were here." - Tuesday's with Morrie
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