Bereavement Support Group

I know how you feel. I do not want to stay in this place of sadness and depression but cannot seem to move on. My daughter died only 3 weeks ago but I cannot imagine feeling happy again. I cannot find interest in anything I used to like to do. Just to make it through the day without sobbing is my goal. My life has not been an easy one and I cannot find an answer as to what God wants from me. Where do you go from this point? I just do not know.

I can't give you any advice, except I know how you feel. I lost my husband in feb. 2008. I still struggle everyday what is next for me in my life, because I too was unhappy and now since I lost my husband even more. Somedays I feel like I am being punished. If you need to talk, maybe we can help eachother while were still here. Take care for now, Sharon

i cant give you any good advice,but I know how you feel.Healing does take a long time and I am slowly healing myself of Brads death.On Halloween..I put on a costume with makeup and went to the party and i saw costumes of all different kinds...the kids love it.I don t know where my life is going either...I am 62 and all alone..but I am going to bell ring for the salvation army again and I will feel better.Try to do little things everyday,and that includes going out for coffee.I try to do little things and the other day...ic ried....I hope that I can go farther.but I am researching how to have a foundation for Brad and to teach about the evils of meth.I hope that you are feeling better and dont hestitate to e mail at all.Vader and the cats.

Green, it's two years for me, and I'm stuck in that same boat of depression - or the sadness, which has gripped me more with time than at the beginning. I can't get anything done. When the pain doesn't go away within what we think is the "normal" mourning period, it's always a bad thing...we're in a realization process of understanding how much we've lost and perhaps, taken loved ones for granted in life. But in the meantime, we beat ourselves up for not putting on a happy face.

I have to add to Suzie: It's only 3 weeks - so soon - too soon to even think - you have alot of time and mending of your heart to do.
"Mommy", you're not being punished. WHY would you feel that way? You didn't do anything wrong.
And, Vader, good advice. Most of us end up not knowing what direction our life will take but it sounds like you're making the effort to do something positive. Good suggestions.

qreen, I am unhappy with my life and the direction it has taken also. I ask God the same things. This cannot be His plan. I was depressed before I lost my boyfriend and now the pain is unimaginable. I feel like I am in Hell too and I have done something that brought it on. People say to stay positive but how can anyone after losing a loved one. I don't have any answers but I feel the same way.

Suzie, I am so sorry for your loss. It is too soon for you and you are still feeling so raw. I wish I could say it will get better and I think it will a bit but you will never forget. I just hope God will give you some peace and make your life better along with the rest of us.

QP

Well that is well said. It is hard not to blame all pain and sadness on loosing my son, when in essence I think it quite well could be other things in my life. Lord help me to sort through this pile!!