What is Bereavement
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Missing mom and holidays
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This time of year really makes me think alot about my dear mom. She passed away December 24th 2007. It is really evident how much effort and time my mom took to make the holidays special. Thanksgiving was always a family gathering a well as Christmas. When she was around I never really gave much thought how she loved the holidays and always wanted everyone together.
It is all different now during the holidays. It is just my dad, myself, and Vicki. My elderly dad still gets around but Ireally have to pressure him to join us for the holidays. Once that he is out of the house he usually has a good time. Sometimes I get on the computer and look for old actors, and musicians from my youth out of curiosity. Many have now passed away. The lesson is appreciate and love everyone, things are constantly changing. Happy Holidays! Posted on 10/31/09, 10:10 am |
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I hope your holidays are great. Sorry about your mom. Your lesson is a good one and something we can all appreciate... love everyone, things are constantly changing. You never know when they will be gone from your life. 
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MY NAME IS STEPHANIE. I LOST MY BROTHER 11 MONTHS LATER MY MOM. THEN 3 MON LATER MY DAD. SO NEEDLESS TO SAY IM A VERY SAD PERSON. MY MOM LOVED THE HOLIDAYS. SHE WOULD GO AROUND SAYING MERRY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYONE AND SINGING CHRISTMAS SONGS.......YEA SHE WAS ONE OF THEM. WELL I NEVER CARED TO MUCH TILL SHE WAS GONE. NOW I THINK A LITTLE MORE ABOUT IT. I HAVE 5 KIDS AND A HUSBAND COUNTING ON ME TO MAKE MEMORIES FOR THEM TO HOLD ON TO. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS REMEMBER THE GOOD. AND MAKE NEW MEMORIES FOR YOUR FUTURE. STAY HAPPY. STEPHIE
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I can also relate.. having lost my mother in 2005, I still miss her, and think of her EVERY SINGLE DAY (no exageration either).. I often sense her close to me when I think of her and want to cry, because I simply can't cry when I think of her. It's as if she will not allow it. I continue to get my family together and cook a feast for thanksgiving and christmas every year at my fathers home. It was mom's tradition I have carried forward. Regarding signs from her.. I still,.. here in '09, look for "comfort dreams" or "peace" in the way of ANY signs from her that she is content, and whole again- as cancer took quite the toll on her life. Occasionally I'll get a scent of fresh flowers (like those of the day she was buried).. and hold dear to that as my "peace". God Bless, and you are truly NOT ALONE! No one can ever replace "mom".
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I know exactly how you feel. Mom always wanted everyone together on all holidays, especially Christmas. And now with Mom, Dad and Pop gone... and I agree the most valued lesson I have learned is to love and appreciate everyone!!! Because change is inevitable!
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I, too, lost my Mom in September 2007, and my Dad six months later. I lived with my Mom my whole life, and she made the holidays bright for both of us. Now, I can't decide from year to year - tree, decos or not? I love the holidays but there's a hole in my life.
But I can't imagine your having to commemorate so sad an anniversary on Christmas Eve. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please - do keep up what you're trying to do for your Dad. Everyone grieves differently. No matter how well you know your Dad - there's no telling what he's feeling within himself. Take good care of him and yourself.
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