Bereavement Support Group

I lost my mother on 10.11.08 We have just pass the one year mark.
Has been a very very difficult year to say the least. Right now I feel more empty . I do not if the emptyness is replacing the grief??
This is all new territory for me. Just trying to take one day at a time.
Writing to DS has help.. I know I am not alone..

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Deb

I lost my mother on 12/10/08. It's so difficult to even put in words how hard it is. My mom was such a big part of my life, so I feel like I am just going to have to adjust to this "new life" without her. It has gotten slightly easier with time, but I will never be the same person again and life will definitely never be the same for me without her here.

Lost my mother on 01/16/09. She had been very sick for a long time, but still when it happened it was a great shock. I still catch myself thinking "I need to call mom". And I dream about her.

It is a loss of that relationship, but it is also a change in who I am. "Sometimes I feel like a motherless child". It is a great comfort to know we all go thru this. I remember how my mother handled it when she lost her mother. It is one more thing that binds us together.

I lost my mother 10/9/08. As with each one of you I have passed through my things since then. I do feel motherless with a gigianic hole. I sit here fully knowing she can't come back yet I am searching for her to return. I can't tell you all the emotions I have felt since that day a lifetime ago but I feel like a little girl who wants to scream, "I want my mommy" and demand seeing her, but I also know I can't. Desperately I miss her with a gaping tear in my heart.

My mother left on 7/21/08. She was being treated for a number of medical issues, but her death came very unexpectedly. This was my first experience losing someone so close to me. She was also my best friend. We shared so much fun together. I think much of the first year I was just so stunned that she wasn't here anymore. Now the real void has set in.

I think it's even more difficult to deal with it now because caring people who used to express their concerns have understandably gone back to their own lives and I'm so hesitant to burden them with what I'm feeling at this point in time. Reading the comments on DS has helped me feel a little more normal and a bit less isolated.

I lost my step mother a month ago. Life seems to filter on, i was there when she died, its a tape i keep replaying in my head. My house is a wreck but we try to keep going. In essence i cant even write everything down, its not a written feeling nor emotion. People tell me how to handle with this loss, and ask me how im doing. The truth is i dont know, people dont walk around knowing how to cope with this.

Time to me now is an illusion. I start my junior year of high school, assuming that i can succeed for her that i will be on top of things. Truthfully its just the opposite. I never realized that i could be so absent minded. I want to tell people why, and yet dont want to them to think its an excuse. My step mother was my life, we were friends (although we had our differences) and we were a team. I respect her in every way, and life with something so significant gone is unbearable. I know that she would want me to "cape diem" and live life love and be happy (a phrase u would have thought she was being paid to say).

Each hour, each minute, each day is different. Sometimes i feel joyful that i had her in my life and that i am working towards a life that she led. Some days i feel like ive been punched in the stomach, and i try to take a step back and realize that the world has just gone on and i get angry and sad and emotions that i dont understand wave over me. I look on the news and see people dying and then i think that death is a part of life. and that this happens to everyone. But this time, it was too soon.

Have you lost your mother? You posted nothing about your situation and your profile is blank.

this Christmas will be 2 yrs since I lost my mother (December 23,2007). I don't know how the season will be. This was her time of year. As soon as thanksgiving came, she started baking. Cakes ,cookies, pies everywhere until Christmas day. I can't bake more then a potato and the microwave does that. The year she dided , one thing I did was just as an impulse was about 10pm I went downstairs and made cookies. Albeit it took til the summer to eat them. They just weren't hers. But it helped settle me. And everytime I think of her, I thank her for sharing 55 yrs of her life with me. It shutters me though. Even before she was gone but even more now, I hear, sound, and react just like her. Apparently there's more of her in me thn I ever realized.

I overlooked post #4. Sorry 'bout that. I lost my Mom July of 08 to colon cancer. It hit me pretty hard. I read books, and did the grief group and counseling; all of which helped (and all of which I recommend by the way). I went through, more or less, the 'stages' they talk about. I still miss her very much. Sometimes I still think for just an instant that I need to call her; then I remember.

My mom passed away 5/27/86 So it's been along time. The first year was awful, we were so stunned and shocked. My sister said it best 'But I'm not done needing her!" Now I catch myself saying things she used to, doing things the way she would and I know she will always live in my heart.