What is Bereavement
Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...
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Hi-My Mom died April 21st and I'm realizing today that I have been blocking feeling anything that will make me cry. The first month I felt guilt about some things....the second month I started thinking about all of the things that aggrevated me about her and provoked me to speak up or have an argument with her......I'm into the third month now and I guess God wants me to face it....she's gone. My Mom was an anchor for me and my siblings. I knew she loved me even if at times she didn't like me. But, she counted on me, trusted my common sense and knew I would call her every day. We had a tumultous relationship but she was so important to me! I can't bear her not being here and I realize I've been walking around in a fog for 3 mos. I had a good cry tonite. Just wondering how long this void will last. On her deathbed she told me I'd get over this in time. I just don't know if I will. Thanks for listening.
Posted on 07/03/09, 08:07 pm |
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Hi Nancy-Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom and that you will be separated soon from your sister and neice. It's so nice that you, your sister and your neice have such a close bond. Maybe you can plan vacations around their new location to help fill some of the void? I am not really close to my sister or her kids and my 2 brothers are out of state and I'm only sort of close to 1. Another reason I'm feeling so bad.....with my Mom around, it sort of connected me to my siblings....now that she's gone it's very obvious that I'm not really a part of their lives....except for 1 brother who only calls when he needs help. This has proven to shake me up in a big way that I now need to recreate a new life for myself to find something to fulfill me. When I lost my job in Dec. 08, then my Mom in Apr. 09.....I realized I lost everything that I wrapped my life around. Thanks again for your reply and bless you too. xxx 
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I am so sorry for your loss. You are going thru the grieving process and remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
I don't know if we ever "get over it", but we do learn to cope and go on with life without them. My daughter passed in 2006, she was 19 yrs old and had a 28 day old baby. I am still doing the grieving process because I don't show my emotions to anyone. I am here if you want to talk. (((((((((hugs))))))))
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DDyer-Thanks so much for your reply. I'm so sorry about the loss of your daughter and I can only imagine how hard that has been for you. ((hugs and peace to you!))
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