What is Bereavement
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I haven't logged on for awhile because I thought I was okay, until my sister came down for the week...It's been a little over a year since the accident that killed my brother-in-law and about killed my sister and sometimes it feels like it was yesterday. My sister's cancer has come back within this year and now I have a feeling she is hooked on the pain killers prescribed for her leg. I look at what the accident has done to her and my nieces and I just want to crawl in a hole. I am suppose to go up and visit them in July but I don't know if I can watch her for a week all screwed up. On top of it all the guy who caused the accident is still walking around bragging about how great his life is. Will I ever be able to listen to the radio and not cry, or drive by the restaurant where they met and tear up, or just look at the girls and think of the past?
Posted on 07/01/09, 08:07 pm |
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I am sorry for your loss, but yes there will be a day that you can do all of those things. When that day happens is unknown. In the mean time, let yourself grieve and if there is anyway possible for you to get thru staying with you sis for a wk, then I think that you need to do that. I am sure she needs all the support from her family and friends that she can get right now. Hugs 
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You are still ok, but it is very difficult to see a loved one in pain. This would jar anyone. I can really understand your discomfort in going there, but also understanding her happiness in spending time with you, I might go to a therapist to talk it over and get some assistance as to what you might be able to do or say to lighten things up a little while for everyone and yourself while you are there. Maybe pain management group could give you some information and/or suggestions that might help.... I really don't know as I have not experienced this. Good luck. Judy
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I think your sister needs all the help she can get. Even though it might be difficult for you to see what's she's going through and yourself, I think she really needs someone to talk about it and to go through the process.
The impact of the accident was a tremendous in her life and your life and for everyone in the family. Time will help i would say, that's the only thing that we have and can hold on to. When my sister was sick, i was there next to her and in my heart honestly i never felt that i should be anywhere else. Unfortunately, she passed away just recently and now looking back and remembering all we shared even in the most difficult moment of her life, makes me realize this is what makes a relationship endless.. share and support. When my sister told me: there are things that only a sister can understand and feel, and she is right, so i am sure you can help your sister go through this. take care
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I am sorry your family is going through this. You know how bad you feel and you know what your sister must feel. Sometimes it is harder to watch someone else grieve than to grieve ourself, but she needs support and so do her children. There will come a time when you will be able to gather together and remember the good things and have fun again. It just takes time and patience.
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oh hunny im so sorry..
in time ull be able to listen to the radio and go and do the things u need to without crying.. i know it sounds so generic but time does help.. and ur sister needs help.. wether she knows it or not.. for her kids and herself.. ill be praying for u hunny
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I am sorry about your brother- in-law and your sister. Grieving is a tough process. We all go through it different ways and different lengths. Our reactions are different as well. I lost my son 4 years ago this July 6th. He died in a car wreck. He left 3 kids behind. He was divorced. His name was Mike and he was 37.
I still grieve too. I visit his grave on his Angel date. I go to his grave at different times and just hang out there for a while. It gets easier as time passes but, I will never get over it. We learn to live with it because life goes on. We get through it but, we never get over it. I remember the good times, his smile, and his laugh. I remember the love he had for his kids. I know the hurt and the void that is left behind with a loss like this. I will be praying for you and your family, especially your sister. God Bless Oldbiker
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