Bereavement Support Group

I am so sorry for your loss. It will take time and a lot of support to get through this. I am available to talk to anytime that you need someone. I lost my Daughter it will be 2 years the 20th of July in an automobilbe accident. Stephanie left behind 3 girls and a husband , brother and a heavy hearted Mom. It is one of the most difficult journeys that I have ever gone through, but with God's help and the help of family and friends, I pray you will be ok.
God Bless,
Debbie

My thoughts and prayers are with you. My son died in a motorbike accident last year and although I miss him terribly still, he was a man and I got to see the person he became. I can be comforted by 30 years of memories. I can’t imagine the pain of losing a small child. You have survived the worst pain a mother can imagine. You are a brave young woman and I’m sure life has much joy in store for you.

The will of God will never take you,
Where the comfort of God cannot dry your tears,
Where the Word of God cannot feed you,
Where the miracles of God cannot be done for you,
Where the omnipresence of God cannot find you.

Everything happens for a purpose.
We may not see the wisdom of it all now,
but trust and believe in the Lord that everything is for the best.

Dear Haidensmom,

I am so sorry and sad about the loss of your precious little baby. It is amazing how quickly a year goes by and I know this has got to have been the hardest year of your life. Please know that so many people here understand how horrific and lifechanging this is for you. I still grieve every day for my younger brother, who was murdered seven months ago. His two young sons, mom mom and other family recently had a memorial bench installed in his honor along a nature trail and two days ago we spread his ashes all over the woods. We all miss him so much and our lives, too, have changed forever.
Please know that you are not alone in your pain and I am so sorry this had happened in your life. It isn't fair. Hang in there. Even though it sometimes feels as if life is not worth living, it is.

I am really sorry for the loss of your child and he is now in Heaven also looking after you.
My prayers go to you and my thoughts as well.
God bless.
Love,

I am terribly sorry about your son's death. I lost my 37 year old son, 4 years ago this coming July 6th. He left 3 kids, 4,10 and 15. He was divorced.

I know the hurt and pain you feel inside. I know the void that is left and all the questions that come to mind. I asked myself all the what ifs, the should haves and the could haves, too.

My Faith in God got me through my son's death. I prayed for strength and I stood in my pulpit and preached the Sunday Morning prior to my son's visitation later that evening. I asked God why but, I never blamed Him. I don't believe it's wrong to ask why. I will be praying for you because I know when these Angel dates arrive, it gets pretty tough. It still does for me. I usually go to my son's grave and just spend time there.
May God give you strength my dear during this time.

Oldbiker

My prayers are with you. Anniversaries are so hard. I know it is difficult but try not to dwell on the day he died. Try instead to celebrate the day he was born and remember the good days with him. My heart will be with you tomorrow.

I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter died in a vehicle accident on Aug. 31, 2006. It is so very hard and the first year is really a year of firsts and those are very hard. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Keeping you in my prayers. It is rough I know. Somehow, someway we seem to survive these dates. Take care.

Oh ,I am so sorry you are feeling worse. For me the second year was much worse than the first. I believe through the first year, we are still in such a shock, we just have not quite really let it sink in that this is permenant, forever, and that it won't ever change. As we move on into this second year, the child we have had their whole lives, have been gone for a long time, and our minds have cleared from some of the shock. When we are injured physically, our bodies go into schock, and we are sort of disjointed from the pain. Our minds do sort of the same thing when they have been overloaded. When your mind has clearedit sinks in and your mind sees and feels the horror that this is real and forever. We want our child to come home now, and they don't. We also have to admit to ourselves that they won't, not ever. No wonder we get all hurt and confused all over again. Our reality is now even more awfully real than it has ever been. I lost my youngest son Paul, April 3, 2003.He was 29. 6 years 3 months. My older son, Steven killed himself Dec. 10, 2007. He was 38. It has been 1 year and nearly7 months.(will be 1yr 7 months July 10th.)My stepdaughter,Karla , also took her own life (she was 33) 3 days after Steven's memorial service. (Karla and boys had the same father, I was the boys mother, but not Karla's mom.) Karla lived either with Steven or down the road a couple of houses for the last 6 years of her life. When I had breast cancer in July 2006, Karla is the one who helped me. My husband had to work, and was going to college at night. Steven had to work. Karla cleaned and did my laundry and she did everything a daughter would have done. Her beautiful face was never with out that smile. Boy it would light up my room and my heart. One day she got aggrivated because my comforter and sheets did not match. She left and when she came back she brought a comforter and sheets that matched. I know she did not have the money, she took them off her own bed. She had 2 sets that matched, and she brought one to make me feel better. I loved her and I miss her. I am also angry with her and Steven. Steven felt guiltu his "baby" brother died before him and he was the oldest.Karla felt like she did not save Steven . Now countless lives have been devestated. Your son was young and here one minute and then your world turned upside down and he was gone. Do not expect to be better so soon. You will never be the woman you were before. You can never have your old life back either. I have found out that you can pick up some shattered pieces of your heart, and build a kind of new life. You must take baby steps, and you will feel like it is one step forwarn and 2 steps back. I beg you to go for counseling, get antidepressants, get what ever help you can and need. Don't try to be super woman. Give yourself permission to grieve and cry and to fall apart from time to time. I found that I was expecting way too much out of myself, and I nearly drove my mind and my body into exhaustion being strong for others. You don't make that mistake. You get help id you need it, but at the least. Be kind be easy on yourself. You have suffered the worst pain a woman can suffer, to outlive your child, it is a horrible life alternating blow. I know my words, I am sorry, do not help, it is all I can say, and I will pray for you. Prayers and love,Peggy

I'm so sorry and just want to wish you all the best! xxxxx