Bereavement Support Group

i absolutely agree with you, misshimsooo, I think a parent's heart for the loss of a child is like no other. My mother has lost one of her 6 daughters and I have never seen or felt such tremendous pain coming from someone.. My heart goes to all the mothers that have to go through such difficult and sad event of loosing a child. God bless you all.

mssunshine, I am not trying to be nosey but you mentioned your son not coming around. Is that for any visits or is he just not going to his sisters house because he can't deal with the loss emotionally?

I know everyone is different and there are people that will avoid rather than deal with a situation. Although, I do think its better for everyone involved if they would not do that but you can't force people to do what they do not want to do.

You see my son was in jail when my daughter passed and was not allowed to attend the funeral. The last time she seen him he was in a orange jumper and he was ashamed of that. When he got out he went to the grave site got drunk and refused to leave which almost landed him back in jail. He just doesn't want to talk about it, deal with it, or see her things. But he does come around and he sees her kids. I just wish I could take all this away for all of them and myself its to painful.

I can't address having lost a child. But I still live in same house as I did with Mom, and sleep in her bedroom now. Her clothes still in the closet almost two years later. I keep trying to move some of my things in the drawers/closets and just can't "move her out". And I know she'd want what's best for me.

I did toss an old SUPER WORN OUT handbag that she insisted on keeping through the years. Just couldn't convince her to use new one. Months after her passing, it was probably the first thing to go. And months after that, I was almost sorry I'd done so. I have a change purse of hers - brand new - loaded with change (that I NEED) - but somehow can't use the coins Mama may have put in there.

It's perhaps the most tender, and difficult thing to have to do. Approach with care. And good luck in your choices.

when my dad pased away in april of 07 we didnt go through his things until august of 07 because we were moving..
we kept a big tub of stuff he would wear on a daily basis..
and we got rid of the rest..

its one of the hardest things ull do but once uve done it..
its like a huge weight lifted off of u..
u could give what u dont want
such as clothes and things to charity.. so when u think of u think of how much good its doing for other people..

il be praying for u hunny

i have just lossed my daughter and we had to sort out her things because she lived in rented acommidation and we needed to empty her house it s the hhardest thing to have to do but in some ways it does give you a little comfort we laughed at somethings and cryed at others it is painful and my heart goes out to you

Hello.
I'm DeeJ and i just lost my boyfriend last week on June 24th. I have been going to his apartment along with his friends and family going through all of his stuff. It is so hard seeing his apartment, and having all of my memories of us being there. He has so many clothes and shoes. When his cousins and friends were going through his stuff to take I was so heartbroken looking at it. I cried at everything. But I feel that he would want people, especially those that he knew and trusted, to have his things, because he was a giving person. I think what's going to happen to the rest of his things is going to goodwill.
But believe me, it is so hard to see everything. I cry at everything I see. I even cried when we went through his car. It will be a tough process, but I am here if you ever want to talk. My wound is still very much open and I would love to talk with others that are going through the same as I am.
Good luck to you and God Bless.
DeeJ xo

Going through their belongings is so hard. That's why I haven't. I t's been 2 1/2 years and I just can't do it. I start to go through his things and I just get a really weird feeling and I stop. I know I need too,but........

When we went through my sisters things, we allowed her daughter who was 9 at the time to try on so many of her cloths and shoes. Although most to big, she put on a little fashion show with almost every piece of clothing. It was a long/hard day but her daughter will never know how much she comforted us that day. We allowed her to keep a couple shirts i even snuck a bra into the back of her dresser drawer for when she gets older I told her maybe she will be similar in size to her mom. I think a girl needs those little things. But its hard its another step in what we already know but its a hard step. Take Care. I'm always here to talk if you need me.

My heart goes out to all of you who have lost a loved one, especially a child, or someone who passed away at an early age of life. I lost my mom this past March 10th and she was my best friend. She came to live with us a year ago in May, and lived with us the last 10 months of her life. We were so close and I am having a hard time getting over it. We were very blessed to have had her as long as we did, but it still hurts when they leave this earth. She was 92 when she passed. She died here in our home, which comforts me that she spent her last hours here in my home. It kind of makes me feel a connection. This week my sister is coming from Ohio to empty out her home of all her possessions, and I am really nervous about it too. We lived in that home for 55yrs, and that place was my whole life. I moved away 20 years ago to my home with my son and husband 20 years ago,but I still was down there just about every day caring for both parents.(I moved 1 mile away) Dad died 6 yrs ago. I am afraid to face it and do it, but I know we have to get it done. It only tares my heart out when I have to go down there to do something or get something. I guess we are doing the best thing by not dragging it out. Your comments have helped me realize how many people are going through the grief every day the same as I feel. God Bless you all. lynne