What is Bereavement
Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...
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Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...

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My letter to the other woman-vader
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On Friday it will be three weeks since I lost my Brad.I have learned that Brad was having a affair with another woman.So far.she hasnt contacted me at all.She hasnt even called.Could it be that she doesnt know? Why do I want to meet her? I want to see my competition..but this is what I am prepared to say...Other Woman---Brad is dead.he committed suicide.He was having a secret life and this is something that I never knew about.But can you tell me why did he take you to Red Lobster on your birthday when the rest of the year he never spent money on me? I am hearing impaired.It is not my fault.I lost my hearing because of a accident that was caused by a drunk driver.But I am not bad because i am doing things that others dont.I try to be interesting as possible.I watch a great deal of news shows.I also read 2 books a week and I try not to spend a lot of money because i cant afford it...I see that you get your hair done every week...why? What gives you the right to take money from a man who is involved in a relationship? And let me ask you this...for every story that Brad told you...how come you didnt take the time to find out if it was true or not? Brad had a tendency to exaggerate and this is a childish tendency.He wanted to be the center of attention and he didnt care who get hurt.He was always doing this.Brad never liked to talk and when I did...he told me to shut up...Excuse me! Who are you? Are you so special that matters of the house that are serious dont deserve extra attention? In seattle...the men are very,very immature.When something arises in a relationship here...the men here go to pot literally.They do not confrond the problem.They go to all of these happy hours.They begin to drink heavily.Some of them have affairs with these women on line and I know that Brad had a affair with you.Brad felt that the problems of the house were my doing and he wouldnt even discuss mine,but Brads problems were his doing.Every time something went on in his life...he would drink.And drinking was his way to confront the situation.DOnt you see that by telling people that they dont need something or someone you are contributing to the demise? Who are you telling Brad that he dont need AA? I didnt know that you were an expert.What gives you the right? And when a slob like you and you are a slob because I dont think of a operator like you doing the stuff you say on the phone is work...contributes to this...you are guilty.And do me a favor...GET A JOB....YOUR CHAT LINE STINKS AND IT MAY GET SHUT DOWN AND i HOPE IT DOES...And anyone who leads a weak man like Brad on...only contributes to the violence in the house and my bruises are healing...my late grandmother said of "loose woman can break up any home." And she was right.You have done this.When was the last time that you read a book or a magazine? When was the last time you gave clothes to the Salvation Army? When was the last time you cried about child abuse? When was it? I give away some of my clothes almost every week.I read 2 books a week.And I give away some clothes to the needy you see there are people in the world who are worst off then you..but these people dont take a horrible job to take money from these men who are at their lowest hours.And that is the difference between me and you...I am a person who was homeless and such.I am different then you because I have got a mind and a consiencen and i would never lead another person like you have.I hope that you can live with yourself and you are probably thinking of ways to destroy the next man.Go jump in a lake and I hope that you do...vader.
Posted on 06/09/09, 06:06 am |
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I'm glad you've gotten angry about this! You have every right! Be strong!
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I am so sorry that you are having a rough time right now. I am glad that you could let her know how you felt about what she did.
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You have every right to be angry! But, don't waste your time with her, she just isn't worth the time or trouble. You are better than that. Remember, he chose to live with you. That says something right there! God bless you, Hon! Love, Judy
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My situation may be different but I undrstand your anger. You definetly let out alot and have every right to your feelings.
I hope that it has helped you by expressing them. Keep doing this and you will free yourself. Free yourself from your hauntings. You seem to be a strong person. It will get easier and you will be able to start a new life. This is still all to new and painful for you. It will take time but your healing will come.
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to all I have got great news...The job class starts on 6/16/09 and I am in it...Jobs here are very hard to find but I am on social security..If I work full time I could lose it so I can only work part time.If i make 600 a month I can still live in the house that Brad loved so much and I cant move as of yet..I dont have the money and I cant afford it.Thanks to all who have replied.How does anyone get a resume? What does a resume have? Let me know..I have to type one up.
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Here is a link that may help you Vader.
http://www.jobaccess.gov.au/JOAC/J... Its aussie, but it should be pretty much the same as in the US. Depending on the age of your computer software, you may have a resume builder in your microsoft works applications. I'm so glad to hear that things are looking better for you!!!
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I don't understand why any woman would want to even involve their selves with a man who was already "spoken for, involved with someone already, or who had committed himself to someone else." I think a woman who does that must have a very low opinuon of herself, and must be desperate to find a man. I believe a woman that does this has very low self esteem and no self confidence. I would not want to be with a man who was already taken, and already belongs to someone else. I am sorry that you have been hurt with a double ammount of pain. You are grieving for Brad, yet you are betrayed and angry with him at the same time, and you cannot even confront him. It is a crazy situition. You just keep on being strong, and taking it a day at a time. You can get through this. Love, I am with you,Peggy
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My( has-been) aka husband started an affair during the last 6 months of my son's life-when our family needed him the most-I CAN RELATE! It's not your fault. Mine took his "other" to Red Lobster, Ped Roof Inn, jewelry shopping, etc...and NEVER in 20 years did he do ANY of that for me-the Mother of his children! I am unable to forgive or forget, but have finally stopped blaming myself.Feel free to contact me ANY time! I WILL LISTEN!! "He" was busy texting the "other" when my son's heart stopped( at home)-on MY computer!!!
Best wishes Jodid
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I am sorry that I havent written sooner.But i am getting replies still.She hasnt contacted me and the way that I have been feeling over this..I dont think that I would be civil.Ladies..do me a favor..if you want a guy that bad..why dont you join a club or go to an outing? Find someone else to do .Taking another persons man who has severe problems only added to them.Brad was changing because of your imput and you have got nerve.I dont hate you.I feel sorry for you because you didnt realize this.BRAD USED YOU TOO AND I WAS WITH HIM FOR 14 YEARS..AND HE LEFT ME NOTHING....But I am going back to work and this relationship is my last.As Howdy Doody used to say..'NO COMMENTS FROM THE PEANUT GALLERY.'
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Tight hugs to you,..you are so much stronger than you think, my friend!
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