Bereavement Support Group

I can understand that, the letting go would be hard for me too. Why do we have to? We accept they are gone, but why let go of the love we felt, the memories we made, what they made us to be?
I'm sorry you have two losses to grieve, it's hard, I know. I lost my mom and my MIL close together,,and they are just "there" in every thought, breath, prayer of mine. Sending huggs to you, Rainbow

I am very reluctant to respond to your post because I have no idea what it is like to lose a child, but I was moved by your story. Hope this doesn't sound callous or insensitive or even stupid, but here goes. My hairdresser suffered a stillbirth, beautiful baby girl who would have been totally healthy were it not for a blood clot in the placenta. She had her picture taken and put it right there where all her customers could see. The baby did not look "dead" in the picture so of course everyone would always say--"oh is that your daughter." She very matter-of-factly-said, "yes, that's Ashley and she was stillborn. I like to look at her picture every day at work to remind me that she is with the angels." Well, of course my reaction (and I'm sure most people) is to say "I'm so sorry, etc." but Kelly is just one of those people who deals with things very well and makes you feel at ease. She has since "let go" enough to have three healthy children but she still honors Ashley's memory. I don't think "letting go" means forgetting or dishonoring. I am sorry for your losses and wish you well on your journey towards healing. Again, I hope this wasn't a dumb post. I meant well but I have no real experience with this type of loss. Take care.

i am so sorry for your loss. i lost my 7 yr old son and yes i have accepted it but i will never never let go of him. he is in my heart and in my mind for all of eternity. they are our children how do you let them go? i dont think it is possible. i live only for my 10 yr old son, if not for him then my life would be over. you are so right it does suck!!! and i also have to grieve for my dad and my sister but right now im only thinking of my beautiful boy. im not trying to sound harsh or cruel but my heart is breaking too much for my son. i do miss my dad and my sister and love them dearly but my son well you know how it is. just know i am always here to talk.
love and hugs

I have not lost a child, but I lost my mother in Oct,207 and I don't feel like letting go is the answer. I will never let go. I haven't even accepted her death yet and know that I will never let go as she will always be with me. My dad died 8 years ago and I have accepted this, but still, have not let go. I still need them both very much and know they are really with me. Sharon

I see no reason to let her go. It's a reality but not one to dismiss. I don't plan to let go of the loss of my dad, never in a million years. I will always mourn his loss. He was with me since I took my first breath and was my greatest cheerleader and my biggest hero.

I lost my mother at an age where I don't remember a whole lot about her but I will never let go of her passing either...there will always be that void. I will always wonder what she'd think of the life I live now...what she'd think of my children, my choices in marriage, etc.

I personally don't think letting go is a good thing.

I think acceptance is fine because we must do that in order to move forward in our lives which is what they'd want us to do if they had a say in this.

Hold your baby girl close and never let her go. Accept that she has transitioned and make peace with it. Grieve in your own individual way and don't let anyone, me included, tell you how or when to do it.

I wish you the best and am here if you need an ear or encouragement.

Dont misunderstand...letting them go be with God...is all I mean....I hear all of you and Im so sorry for your losses....

I dont think I will ever let go of my 5 month old baby because he is a part of me that is gone. He is always in my memory. I believe the same for you.