Bereavement Support Group

Steph I'm sorry you're hurting, I know the roller coaster ride all too well, as many of us here do. You're not alone hun, keep putting one foot in front of the other, sometimes one minute at a time. I have sudden tidal waves of grief too, and it's been 9 months since my mother passed. I miss her terribly and today was thinking I would call her, still have to remind myself I can't. Hugs to you and praying you can find some peace. So glad you have supportive family to help you and the boys.If you need to talk I am always here. Lori

Thank you Lori! Im sorry for your pain as well. And always here for you too! Don't you wish you could just call them at least once? Wow that would be awesome! Thank you for responding.

Hey Steph. Same thing here, I've been a wreck for days, crying and crying. This week it will be two months since he passed away and I still I can't believe he's gone forever.

I am glad you are thinking of moving forward with career plans and have good support from your family. [hugs]

Calling them? Michael's phone is still on. I call it just to hear his voice mail announcement. It's all that is left except pictures...miss him so much.

I recorded my hubbys voicemail message cause his parent's had to turn off his cell. I have tons of pics, just wish he was here physically. You will see ur hubby when its ur time to leave here. I truly believe they. It's all I can say to help me through my dark days.

In April just before Easter my hubby got sick, developed pneumonia, and a secondary infection called Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome (ARDS) and 19 days after checking him into the ER and ICU he had fought a great battle but just could not fight any longer, there was nothing more for the Dr’s to do and on April 28th we had to decide to turn off the ventilator he was on.
I was on auto pilot after Laine died to get through his service and all the 'have tos'. Now it seems that my grieving process has really begun ... I'm in counseling and feel its helping. But I'd like to know how others have coped with the sudden crying at work, and getting over the loneliness feelings. Sometimes it’s just so overwhelming.
It seems that friends and family are not contacting me as often as they were … but it’s now that I need them to pick up the phone and see how I’m doing. Work is keeping me busy. I miss telling Laine little updates, and having him just hold my hand or give me the quick little hug in passing.

How are you all getting through the bouts of crying? I feel silly when it hits at work, but I can't help it.

I'm sorry for your loss. It really is a rollercoaster huh? Most of the time I just cry and feel each emotion. I'm not working, I'm getting ready to go back to college. I'm scared to work because like u said when it hits you, it hits you. Do u have a good boss? Hopefully you do and they understand you. Iv read many books on the afterlife, and its the one thing that has helped me. I'm sorry your friends and family don't call as much, we are here for you! You can talk to me anytime.

It's hard. 5 months is still pretty fresh. Took me about 3 years to really move forward, and find a way to get in touch with the loved one on the other side (dreaming). Once I had a couple good dreams where I communed with my brother, the meetings brought back that peace, made me realize we're really not that far apart. Of course, dreaming is random, and dreams seem to happen on a "need" basis. God's cruel joke.

I think you're making the right decision by pursuing social work! Transmute this pain into a living, and helping others!

I found a wonderful councelor, and am looking for a grief support group that works with my work hours. Yes my boss has been wonderful. I just worry that he'll say enough is enough. But that's my mind working ... I work for a very structured company and as they say 'weakness' isnt included in the everyday runnung of the company. I have to be careful since I'm looking to be promoted. Have a good day friends ... it's a long one for me today! :)

I always think of my mum & dad! I miss them so much. Its been 2 months gor my mum & 3 years for my dad. I know its hard to missing your loved one, i try to think about the funny times we had together. It sometimes works and sometimes makes me cry. It is good you have great family support. Also you have your precious boys! There is a piece of your husband in your boys. Its good you are studying and doing something you are passionate about. They say " when you do something you love, you don't work a day in your life". I know it is hard but you have support. Here if you need a ear! (hug)

I'm aching. His stone went up yesterday and I went up straight away after it was fixed and replaced plants and ornaments and placed a dozen red roses in a grave vase. I felt great satisfaction and pride in doing this for him but I also felt great sadness for the longed for retirement that we had been planning and just on the verge of starting when Christopher became unwell. I took a Piccy on my mobile phone and have struggled to stop myself sitting and staring at it. I feel numb all over again, the realisation that this is all that is left of the Person who has been my primary relationship since I was just 16

I am horribly lonely in the evenings, starts at just around the time he would be coming home from work. The thing about this loneliness is that there is no cure for it, not for me anyway. I am not about to go out on a manhunt, I do not wish to work outside the home, I do enjoy some day time hobbies, gardening, walking, swimming cycling but have no interest in any kind of evening events. In the evenings I lock up and apart from my two cats I am totally alone with my sadness and misery. This was our time, the time we talked, laughed, loved and made plans for the future. Now all that is gone.

The daytime is the time for my brave face, forced smile, and even sometimes some friendly witty chat but the nights are for remembering the love of my life and crying for him, all I went through watching him die and the future I have now lost.

I'm sorry for your loss and share your pain and sorrow.