Bereavement Support Group

Im really honestly sorry that happened to you. i feel the same way about my dad dying 4 years ago and it hurts worse now than it did then. Im just really sorry, if you want to talk about it il listen if you want.

There is no time frame for grieving, but it is something you have to work through in order to heal. I think you could benefit from grief theraphy, as you have supressed your feelings for too long...........We are here for you, and DO understand your pain (((HUGS)))

thanks, its really nice to have more understanding people, that can relate to talk too. since i lack that directly around me.

I find myself composing little poems in moments of intense pain, it feels like a relief to write them down as they come into my head, like an outpouring of grief. Im only eight months into my loss but apart from two family members nobody is showing me any compassion or understanding. In deed the opposite is true and of late I am experiencing downright cruelty in the form of ridicule for how I feel. My heart goes out to you and I totally empathise with the stress and inability to cope with everyday things. Its like walking through treacle with a muddled up head. So sorry for your sad loss.

I'm sorry you are still having such a difficult time, it may be that you've supressed your grief and you never actually worked thru it. Perhaps a therapist would help you get in touch with your grief work. It also sounds like you have a little PTSD by witnessing your mothers death in the accident you were in, you need to work thru that otherwise you'll be stuck and never go forward. Wishing you peace. Beth

its really hard when you don't have anyone who real supportive after going through a loss, and in my case traumatic car crash too. i hate having no one around me directly that knows how i feel about it. i think with 3 kids and so little support and always so much going on i did suppress a lot of my griefs and feelings about it all, lately i haven't been as able to keep busy and so many things have changed over the past year and half i think its made me want my mom around more and i just know now shes not coming back.... i hate not being able to cope with everyday life some days. hoping one day i will get. i hope one day to be able to move forward... thanks for the kind words and support. :)

How do you grieve the loss of your mom in a positive way? I lost my mom 7 years ago due to cancer and I have trouble grieving her loss in a positive way. I am just wondering, because after 7 years, I thought by now things would be much easier, however, it seems so much harder and I miss her more now, than when she first passed away. Any suggestions would be great. Thanks. Sorry for your loss.

Hi. Is there a right or a wrong way? To me, it's helped just to talk about my feelings, the anger that I felt at losing my mum, the sadness, the frustration. I hadn't realised that I'd tucked all of those emotions away until I came on here and started to talk about things.

I was shocked by the strength of all of those feelings, especially as I thought that by now things would be moving on.

I can't give you the answer, but we are all on here to share and to listen, and I'm sure that will help.

I hope it doesn't sound patronising, but small steps, try to remember the good stuff (photo's help me, although it can be tough to look at them sometimes).

Hugs from us all...

I don't believe i have found any way positive to grieve my mom and i feel the same, almost 6 years since i lost her and i feel worse and want her now more then ever... i have a hard time talking to just anyone about it, i feel like bringing it up makes others feel awkward, like they just don't know what to say about it. i guess that is where a therapist will come in handy when i can find one i am comfortable with and have a way to get to one... i think after almost 6 yrs i am finally coming out of denial about it all. i really think the past few years i have been in denial and somewhere in the back of my head it was just she just left for awhile. with going through all the new changes and hard stressful times and not having her here for me, or really anyone here for me, it has hit me hard that she just isn't and wont be there for me now.