Bereavement Support Group

ok,sorry BUT IT WILL ALWAYS HURT,ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!we have to learn to live with the losss,thats just anoyher esson,look stay here i dont know enven how to type coorrect i just know i hurt....i misss my mama.God oh god help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Sue,
I feel ya sister. I know I'm tired of hearing "she's in a better place". I KNOW she's in a better place, but it still freakin hurts! I just try and remember when my mom lost her mom and how she coped with her pain. She did keep living her life and she did find joy again. I just trust that my God will help me through this too! God Bless you and keep writing! Hugs, Melissa

I'm very tired of hearing...."she's your guardian angel now"....I feel you suszie I really do. *hugs*

Suszie. I lost my father to lung cancer almost 6 years ago. It still hurts. I miss him everyday. I miss that he is not here to meet his new grandson. I miss that he is not here to see his grand daughter grow up. The pain never goes away. It doesn't "take time" you just learn how to deal with the pain and the loss and you accept it as part of your life now. Nothing is going to be the same as it was when he was here. I always find in comforting to talk to people who have been through and who are going through what I am. Maybe that will help you too. Sorry if this is not helping, but I personally want to hear the truth. I don't like things to be sugar-coated. Life changes and it sucks when we lose someone we love very much.

Hi Suszie,
I'm in the same place you are, to an extent. My mom just passed on June 1st. She also had COPD, although it was her heart that finally took her from us. It's a daily struggle to get up in the morning, but I do it for her. I was blessed to be by her side when she passed, and I made her a promise. I promised her I would be okay and that I would take care of my dad. She slipped away about a minute after I made that promise. So, I get up, I go to work, I live my life because I promised. Then there is also the fact that if I let myself sink into the pain, she would be so angry with me. I want to sit and cry and just do nothing but think of her. I can't. I promised her. My advise is to think about her, but don't dwell on the loss of her. Remember her life, and how much you loved her, and how much she loved you. Remind yourself that she isn't suffering anymore. It's the only thing that keeps me going some mornings. She isn't in pain, she's free from the suffering. I also wear her favorite necklace, and her sweater. It makes me feel like she's with me. I hope this helps. Just know that you aren't alone, no matter how it may feel some days. If you need to talk, let me know.

It hurts for a long time, no matter what anyone can tell you. You wake up from a dream each night, and realize that you awoke to a nightmare. Life without that person you loved so much.

I can't tell you what will make you feel better. Know that you're not the only person that has felt this pain. Do something to help yourself heal. Find the peace within yourself to go forward. You can adapt and thrive, though it hurts, and is not fair that we are separated too soon from those we love.