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Seems there wer no Happy Times
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I hear a lot of people say remeber the happy times with your loved one. I wish I could, my brother started out early in life locking himself away from his family ( sort to say) When he was in the 6th grade he was 6 foot tall and we had to buy him mens big and tall clothes, back then they weren't cool and hip. He was made fun of, I felt like I should protect him, but because I was almost 5 years older I was in a different school as he was and when we asked he never would tell anyone who said or did what. So his size was always an issue. Then there were the girls that liked him but he didn't like.... He always picked the ones that he thought were trophy girls or that would use him..... He was such a kind man at heart. He was 3rd in his class in High school, never went to college, I really think he felt he had to stay and be there for mom and dad, since I am the other sibling and I move out. Mom and I wrote a resume and got him his first and only job, which his bosses knew and made fun of him for. They were good people they asked him with his smarts why he stayed and when he got cancer they payed him just enough so he could still have his insurance. But it is just hard because he didn't seem Happy in this life..... I know my faith has been shaken, I want to believe that he has everything he could imagine in heaven......Heath, happiness, good fortune, etc..... but is that really what happens??? I want to believe!!!!!
Posted on 11/09/09, 06:11 am |
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I'm really sorry about your bro. Sounds like he got dealt a bad hand in life. I don't know much about the afterlife. I am hoping that my Mom is happy. She deserves to be. I would suggest you delve deeper into your faith and study whatever scriptures go with it. I would guess that getting closer to god might give you the answers. 
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you ask good, hard questions. my sister lived short and difficult years, killing herself at age 18. i do have some happy memories of earlier years, before she became consumed by mental illness. over these many years, it's been my deepening faith that has sustained me. i've also done a few things through the years in her memory that have been helpful to others - i believe that in that way i add meaning to her life.
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Tahnks for the comments, I know I have to rely on my Faith and I'm trying...... My brother asked me not to get mad at God and I'm not, I just wish he had a second chance to try and change his life, I really think he was planning on it if he got better, but he also knew he wasn't going to get better. I have been doing things to honor him and that does help. Thanks so much, again....
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