What is Bereavement
Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has a physical, cognitive, behavioural, social and philosophic...
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I am a shy person, it seems like because of my shyness/depression that I just don't have much motivation to go out with people, and usually just hang out with one person that i am close to. I hesitate to go out with people i don't know well because I am afraid I am going to be rejected, or worry about what im going to talk about or that i will do or say something that will cause them to not like me anymore. I dont really pay attention to much of whats going on around me, and usually am stuck inside my head with my thoughts/feelings. It seems like I've been like this since my losses. Is this normal with grief? I was traumatized by the sudden losses of my friends, and I think it is still there and people don't seem to understand why it still affects my life. what should i do?
Posted on 10/31/09, 11:10 pm |
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Have you considered looking for a bereavement group in your area? It can help to talk to people who are on a similar path. 
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i am so sorry that you have to face this and you feel so alone...i've learned there is no "right or wrong" way to grieve and no "timetable"...
you say in your post "friends"...did you lose multiple friends and would you want to share your story on this forum? i am a newbie here, but can tell there is support and kind words to be found...you might want to give it a try...prayers to you on your grief journey...pat
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Thank you for the support, okay briangood.. i can share my story.
I experienced the sudden loss of 2 close friends about 5 months apart. the first friend who passed died from an overdose,her family wasn't sure if it was a suicide(and I never really realized how depressed she had been and felt guilty). i was still dealing with this loss(but was getting better) when another close friend who was a big support in my life suddenly passed away due to health problems. My grandpa also passed away several months after. The experience has had a major affect on my life, it has been 3 years since the first friend passed, and have gotten better, but i also go back and forth between getting better and feeling really depressed, where i wish it was me who died. I just feel like i can't really talk about it with my family, or friends. My family just doesnt want to hear me talk about it, they dont seem to understand because they were my friends. I just feel bad that they think i should have moved on by now.
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