Bereavement Support Group

Hi, I do not know if you can die from grief, but I know I did not care if I did, except for I have another son who lost his brother and best friend and I knew I needed to be there for him, oddly enough he has been there for me with just listenly when I am so sad.
I promise you it will get some better with time, although sometimes I still feel like I am just holding my breath waiting to explode or just scream, which I have done. The feelings of not doing whatever you think you should have done are normal and I pray you can come to a more peaceful place in time.
I relied on many people just to talk to and fortunately they listened. I went through all the wish I had called that weekend,and a million other what ifs, but fortunately the last thing I told my son was I loved him. Please write if you like, I will try and be there for you. Peace and comfort to you.

Well grief can send you into depression and the stress can certainly harm your health, even to the point of death. Did you ever look into professional counseling?

"They" say stress can really do a number on the body. I still pray...hope...wish everyday that this day will be my last day. I am disappointed each day I wake up. It has been two years since I lost my only child...unfortunately...I am still plodding through each day waiting for my release from suffering this mortal life.

Even Elizabeth Edwards said during an interview with CNN, "After the death of a child one views death differently."

There is no "getting over" the death of a child. I am so sorry for your loss.

Firefly. I often wonder this myself. In the old days they often spoke about people dying of a broken heart. Since I lost my boyfriend I have this heaviness in my chest everyday. Then my cat almost died and I have all these other problems coming up at once. If he were here and I had these problems I would have been upset too but it just makes it so much worse. You say your chest hurts and you lost weight and can't sleep. These are the same things I am experiencing. I don't know how long it lasts, maybe others on this board will let us know. I do know we will never get over it. You didn't do anything different with your son the last time you saw him because you didn't know it was the last time. You can't beat yourself up for that. I try to remember the good times with my BF but that last day when I found him is all I see. I pray that God will take away my pain and yours too. If only some of this pain would be lifted from us then maybe we can be brave too.
QP

My son was 20 when he died in a bicycle accident just over a year ago. What I try to do is allow myself to feel whatever it is I'm feeling - FOR A SHORT time.
Release some of the agony and pain and let it out of my system. Then I breathe deeply and repeat this to myself: "Max would not want me to feel this badly". This may not work for you at first. But as I tried to focus on what Max would want for me and less on my personal pain, I began to come out of the dark. I hope this may help you. God bless you.

Dear friend, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my only child, my 37 y.o. son, Eddie on 9/4 suddenly. I feel all the same physical pain you descibe and the loss of my child who as an adult was my closest friend is so profound. Hold on, let me carry some of your grief and know that I am with you sharing it. I'll be thinking of you every minute. I wish you peace

i think deep grief, deep loss, is itself a death. and then a chance for renewal for you.

I am so sorry for your loss of your precious son Max. I lost my precious daughter Luchan aged 14 years nearly two years ago. With her second anniversary coming up in three weeks, I start to feel the intense pain again every day. We can never get over the pain of our loss of a child, but with time passing by, it does get better. The pain will become less intense more bearable, but it will take a long time. This is a sad journey with many ups and downs. The pain at the beginning was unbearable to me, i wished that I wound't wake up each morning to the nightmare of losing my child.I find talking to other people who care and writing down my feelings help me a lot. Ds is a amazing site, there is a formomoly group, you will meet many amazing women there who have lost their child. We have been through that you are through, We know and understand your pain. We will be with you my dear friend. For now, just breath, take a day as it comes, look after yourself. I will think of you and pray for you to get strengh for each day. love and hugs Robyn

i dont know if you can die from grief..but this pain is something that I find will never go away and today it is 5 months since Brad killed himself and I find myself every day trying to live life one day at a time and it is so hard when people just dont understand but today the tears are streaming down my face.I have one question that I would like to ask him..why? What did i do?

Hi, My dad and mom were together for over 62 years and my mom died on Dec 18th. My dad was so heartbroken and distraught, he gave up the will to live and died nine days later in the hospital. The nurses said that he died from a broken heart.

I think it has to be extraordinary circumstances that brings one to such a place that a person says they no longer wish to live. My dad was with my mom for a long time. They survived a lot together and loved a great deal.But they were both 85 years old, and there health was not good at all.

But we all must make a choice as to the ones we are leaving behind and the one we are choosing to be with. Are we being selfish in leaving to be with the one who died by ignoring the ones who remain here to pick up the pieces from our passing? I dont know?
What about the children, siblings, parents or friends we leave behind who miss us? What kind of harm will we do if we make such a choice. This is something for each of us who greive a loved one needs to come to terms with I guess. What will our child who is alive think of us if we chose to die to be one their sibling instead of remaining to help them grow up, and carry on? Will they think that they are less loved?

For me, I chose to celebrate my parents life and remember the advise and wisdom they taught me. They showed me love and in love I know that they are not gone, nor forgotten. Nor are they very far away. They are here with me in Spirit and watching over me wanting me to carry on as this is what they would do if they were here in the physical.
For they are my parents and want only the best for me. That has never changed and never will.
I choose to take each day and live life as best as I can. And although I have days (and sometimes more than I care to mention)were I am so saddened and miss them so deeply, I know that I will be ok, for I have faith that I they together and happy, and I know that after the cry, I am still breathing, and I am loved. For I have people around me now in the physical who need me, and love me too.That is all I need! And someday I will be with them again. This is what holds me together and keeps me hanging on.