Bereavement Support Group

Dear Scared,
I haven't lost a spouse or a fiance' but, I lost a son, 4 years ago. I can't say I totally understand but, in a way I do. I still miss my son. Parents aren't supposed to bury their kids. This was the hardest time in my life. I am very sorry about your loss. You are young and you have a great life ahead of you. Grieving is different for all of us but, I had to finally accept that life must go on in spite of tragedies of this life we live.
My prayers are with you my dear.

I am sorry....

I know it hurts..Might hurt for years..might hurt forev er...

You hav e to decide how to get yourself treated to cope with this..whether it be support groups, counselling and/or meds...
It's up to you.

Time helps but it won't make it go away..My wife died in 2001 and I still feel sad and angry...

So you have to find a way to cope...

Good luck friend...

I am so sorry about your fiancee. It must be awful to lose someone your were just starting your life with. Grieving can take a long time but it also takes work. It is not easy. I suggest you look into bereavement counseling, and/or a grief support group at a local hospice (Google it for you state/city). There are also many good books that can help you through the grief journey.

God bless. Scott

Scard18, I am also very sorry for the loss of your fiancee. The three posters before me have given you very good advice and I defer to them on this, but know that they are correct and it will take time. I wish you much happiness in the future :-)

Angrywolfe, I did want to say something to you as well. I see a lot of you in me. I tend to internalize my grief and anger (which I have been told is not so good) and try to channel working it out by helping others (if I can). However, it is not enough unfortunately for me, but I am glad if I can even help one person on this forum.

I am also in my 50's Angrywolfe, but on the "wrong side" of that number so I am doing something I rarely do and that is to suggest that you take good care of your health. I say this because an episode happened to me physically late last night that never happened to me ever before in my life. It was pretty bad but I didn't panic and have never been afraid to die. I did recover as you can see because I am typing this post and 'd rather not go into details as it is not important for the purposes of this post.

That said, I started thinking of the family I still have and whom I have distanced myself from after the loss of my Mother. I am going it alone for the most part as I have never done to this degree with other deaths of dear close ones before this tragedy to my Mother last month. This forum is probably the first and last place I will go concerning my Mother's death and talking in any length about it (And I haven't talked much really, other than what happned and that's it). It is a nice place really where there are so many good people that I believe are helping many out there who are grieving.

It's not as I wasn't aware that something like this would happen but it's not fun when it does. You start thinking about others. I am not a selfish person, and there is going to have come a time where I face the moment of truth in all of this. I am hoping it is sooner as opposed to later. I am truly sorry for the loss of your dear wife Angrywolfe followed by the loss of your Mother which was almost back to back.

You are 52 and that is young and you still have time to get yourself in good condition both physically and emotionally. I know you can do it. In fact I'm pulling for you! That's all I wanted to say really. Take care buddy.