Bedwetting Support Group

Hi Youngrose,

I sympathise a lot with your cousins situation. I know what its like to be tormented by kids. Your aunt really should make it clear to your cousins sister that teasing her about this is totally unacceptable behaviour. It can be really traumatic dealing with the problem and teasing is only likely to make the situation much worse.

Drugs are often not very effective treatments for bedwetting and when they do work the bedwetting can frequently start again as soon as you stop taking the drugs. At the age of 10 its really time to properly check out what is causing the bedwetting. I dont know what your situation is with medical insurance etc. (we have the NHS here in the UK) but I would recommend getting her seen by a decent urologist. They can do tests such as a Urodynamic assessment which will investigate if there is a physical cause. When the cause is known there can often be various treatments available and sometimes these are very effective and may stop the problem completely.

Please try to get your sister to understand that this problem and the teasing is very distressing and will be severly affecting your cousins happiness and her confidence. At 10 it is unlikely that it will 'go away' or that your cousin will 'grow out of it'. Your cousin really needs some help right now.

Good luck and take care.

Jake

thank you very much. I feel so bad for her because I know how much it embarasses her, poor thing. I will call my aunt and let her know about seeing a uroligist. Thank you again.

Hi Youngrose,
I emphatise with your cousin. At the age of 10 I was also a chronic bedwetter. A chronic bedwetter is a child who wets more than 3 nights a week. Like your cousin I wet every night. My parents took to one doctor after another but was only told, "leave him alone, he'll grow out of it." I finally did, but the rule is ny house, was my 3 brothers could not tease me about my wetting problem. I finally outgrew my bedwetting like the doctors said I would, but my heart ache every time I read about or hear about some poor child being mistreated because of something they cannot control Some times I want to scream at the antagonist, "THEY DON'T KNOW THEY'LL WET WHEN THEY ARE ASLEEP!" i think that is the hardest thing for non=wetters to accept. Kids that wet the bed are just finding out they are wet, when the rest of the family finds out they are wet, When they wake up in the morning.
I was not blessed with children of my own, but I have known for some time that bedwetting is hereditary. I had planned a punishment for the siblings that didn't wet when they teased the sibling that did. They would have to wear the same type of protection to bed as the bed wetter. Then they would get the message, don't tease, and don't embarrase them it could have just as easily have been you. Hug your couin for me, psycholigist agree these kids need more hugs then usual because every morning she has to awaken to the fact her body let her down one more night.
lildman53

hi my 12 year old daughter was like your cousin very much the same but i took her to sssee a different docter and he sent her for a scan on her bladder and the scan shown she was producing to much water the tablets they have now given her work great so a weak bladder she never had take care-susanx

I am an adult bedwetter & have been a bedwetter all my life. I do sympathize with your cousin. Even though i still wet she will probably out grow her problem before she is in her teens.Tell her to ignore the folks who tease her.Good luck!!