What is Bedwetting
Bedwetting (or nocturnal enuresis or sleepwetting) is involuntary urination while asleep. It is the normal state of affairs in infancy, but can be a source of embarrassment when it...
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My boyfriend has a 12 yr. old daughter who can not or will not go to the bathroom in time. She will actually sit there and pee all over herself three or more times a day and laugh about it. As far as I know she does not suffer from any mental disorder other than depression. What in the world can we do to help her? She is on a medication, but it's not working. Personally, I think she is too lazy to go to the bathroom, but I have not voiced my opinion in fear I would only make it worse.
Posted on 07/06/07, 11:07 am |
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Hi there,
I'd never heard of a 12 yr.old doing that before. Why does she think it's so funny? Is it that she gets a kick out of frustating her father? Or does she genuinely think peeing on oneself is hilarious? I have two children with mental disorders and this to me sounds like it would definitely fall into that type of behavior. Has she ever had a full psychological evaluation? What does her pediatrician say? One thing we've started doing with our 10 and 8 yr. olds who wet is that they now have to do their own peed-on laundry. Since their peeing is involuntary and at night, this doesn't necessarily help them to stop, but it sure does help to take some of the burden of all the clean up of all the extra laundry off of Mom and Dad. Why is it that you fear your opinion would only make things worse? Have you tried talking just to your boyfriend privately? If she IS doing this purposely, I would also try making her wear pull-ups (they go up to over 100 lbs. now) all day and tell her that if she is going to act like a baby she will be treated like one. I realize this may be a little hard to enforce being that she is so old. But what about taking privileges away? No tv, computer, or video games until she has a fully dry day. Of course all this is assuming she is doing this purposely. If she can't help it, then unfortunately, I am in the same boat as you are except that mine do it during the night. I hope some of this has been helpful. Take care, Debi 
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I would make her use pull ups, and if they are to small goodnights will fit her. I work with kids that have problems mentaly and I agree with Deb I'd have her evaluated.
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This girl clearly has a problem.If her father does not get her help, I would consider contacting the local Child Protective Service.
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I agree with all of the above that counseling and/or a full evaluation may be in order.
She may be laughing about it on the outside just to cover up that she's frightened about it on the inside. This happened to me several times at roughly the same age. I'd be sitting there watching TV or playing a video game or whatever and suddenly realize that I'm peeing. But I'd be SO listlessless and lethargic at that moment that I just couldn't summon up the will to stop (Probably hard to grasp if you haven't been there, done that). Most of the time nobody knew, I was a single child and a loner so I was frequently alone. The ONE time I was almost "caught", I covered it up by turning it into a joke - I made a deliberate show of splashing some water on myself and then hammed it up by acting like I'd peed, all to cover up the fact that I HAD peed. I'd long ago learned that being the "class clown" could cover up a multitude of ills. That was my way of dealing with it. Maybe this is her way of dealing with it. BUT BE FOREWARNED: Getting a 12-year old to work with a counselor is no easy task. It took me until I was 20-something to really "open up" to another person and deal with the issues that I needed to deal with.
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