Autism / Autism Spectrum Support Group

i have a teenage son who is severely autistic and a ten year old who is ODD (but not Dx'd) and a 16 year old drama queen..... also a single mom too..... don't have any advice but just wanted to tell you you're not alone.

I was at one time in my life a very violent person. School can be very stressful for an Autistic child. Children are very cruel to any one who is different. After going onto an online school my life was much less stressful and I calmed down.

I can sooo relate. I can't offer much advice but since taking my son off medication he seems easier to reason with. If he hits me I just look at him with a sad face and tell him that he hurt me and it's not nice to hit mommy. He then gets a look of regret on his face and says he is sorry. My son is 8 almost and trust me I do understand. It is really hard to take a beating from someone that you love so unconditionally. I am here if you ever need an ear. Hugs Denise

oh i know where you're coming from! my 6 year old has anxiety, odd, pdd, and aspergers and there are days i want to rip out all of my hair.
i've had to move out of my boyfriends because 'it wasn't fair to him' to be attacked by my son. i've had to take him out and home school him because i've had to move to a different town into my mothers while i'm waiting to get his ssi started and this school will not take him and his old school he attacked his teacher and the principal and the sp.ed teacher was a complete idiot and he would not stay with her. i can't get a job because NOBODY will babysit and i can't put him in daycare. the woman that prescribes his meds. won't change them and i don't see where their doing any good at all. he eats non stop and then it's a fight because i can't let him do that. he's 6 years old and is over 4ft. 2in. and he weighs 75 pounds.
he hits and throws things and runs and flips people off and screams at the top of his lungs.
as hard as this is to believe when we're in the store the best thing i can do when he gets mad and has a melt down is just to walk away. i always know where he is because he's screaming, and i know that he won't be kidnapped because who would want to deal with that. but i always keep a look out of the corner of my eye, just no direct eye contact and i do not talk to him.
there's no point in trying to explain things in the middle of everything.
when he really hurts me and i cry he always comes up and rubs my back saying that he's sorry.
i promise i could write a lot more but i don't feel like it, but you are not alone. i understand and have had the same feelings and problems.

i'm sorry but i've also got to say that he is always on my side if i'm in a disagreement and he is the only person that i know loves me know matter what kind of day i've had and he can be the sweetest most lovable little boy ever. plus he is my little cuddlebug.

OOOhhh...3js after I read your comment and then your next comment defending your son from the earlier post you wrote.....felt like I was reading something I would have written. Although our kids hit, kick and scream.... we love them and they are all kind, cuddly and sweet... sometimes they just get this kinda rage over them and for a little while I kinda feel like I am not even dealing with my Sean. My son is sooo sweet, kind hearted, kissey and cuddley sometimes he gets soooo frustrated that he just can't handle things... I don't think our kids are meaning to direct their anger at us just we are in the way. Sorry I am rambling.... just felt a bit moved by your last post. Bigges hugs and we are all here to support each other. Denise

thank you. as soon as i posted it and read it i really did feel bad, because no matter what you can't just focus on all the bad. you have to look at the good things to and there are really more then most people see because the bad is usually so big and that's what most people remember or think about at the end of the day. but those little kisses and hugs and i love yous can't be pushed to the side.
there has never been a day that he's not told over and over and over that i love him.

Hi my son is now twenty he has Autism/Learning disability/Epilepsy.From the ages of 8 to 14 he was an absolute nightmare his violent behaviour was uncontrollable. Puberty kicked in very early for my son.He still has all the Autistic behaviours but when he hit 16 he reaaly calmed down, he is now a gentle giant. I have alot of friends who have teenage Autistic children and they all say things have become much easier now that their children are older. Hope this helps.