What is Asperger Syndrome
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is chara...
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How do I know if my Aspie grandaughter who I am raising will be able to live independently? She's 16 now & in 10th grade. School is a nightmare even though she's on the 504 plan &
her teachers let her turn work in late etc. Every year since 1st grade she gets 0's, swears she did the work & turned it in, her teacher(s) must have lost it. 10th grade now, still the same excuse. WHAT IS THAT???? Handwriting is about 1st grade level & very difficult. I can't imagine her filling out a job application. I hope she will be able to do it online. She has a real problem with authority. Not in a direct way but indirectly. She would never talk back to her teachers but doesn't do the school work, for example. How will she ever be able to work for somebody? She doesn't want anybody teaching her anything, she knows EVERYTHING. I'd like to teach her some life skills but she won't let me & refuses to go to a class that would help her. I need her to be independent because I can't take much more from her. When she is 18 I am DONE. I can't keep living with someone who acts like they hate me 24/7 and avoids me like the plague. It's sad, we used to have such a great relationship. I am just trying to get her thru school so she can graduate but every time I mention grades she has a complete meltdown. Would love to hear from Aspies who are oppositional defiant on how to proceed. One part of me wants to just let her fall, another part says I'm the parent figure & I need to take control, yet it seems impossible. The more I try to control, the more she rebels... Help. She is taking drivers ed & got her restricted license but refuses to let anybody ride in the car with her to practice driving. Posted on 10/26/09, 09:10 am |
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OMG I hid under a desk too, I had to be removed from Kindergarten, they called it some weird almost autistic thing cuz @ that time they had NO idea! I did off the wall things but for me I was always far ahead academically , far behind life wise and I NEVER seem to catch up!! It seems like time, life slipped past me somehow... Best of luck with your daughter! 
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I want to send out big hugs to the aspies here who say they were punished, not understanding why they were wrong...I've heard those same sentiments from my mom. She always felt that way, and still does I think.
What is also interesting is that has a difficult time explaining things so it's a double challenge--she understands best when you explain things in simple, basic terms... and she has difficulty explaining things in simple, basic terms... so it can be hard to understand her and her intentions. Growing up, it used to frustrate me a lot because I often wanted to understand the reasons for things but couldn't find them out directly from my mom (or dad for that matter because he's an aspie too!)
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Oh I mean grand daughter right?? My Ma knew I was in PAIN so she kind of over mothered me but on the other hand emoted so much it blitzed me right out!, I was basically persecuted as a kid,I want to find a better term but being different then got me in a world of TROUBLE! Dad was the harsh disciplinarian but I remained wayward, regressed, crying in SECRET and dad died more a stranger to me then I ever would have liked! Honestly I just do not think anyone knew what to do with me, now here I am with the full ability to be a published writer my life in my OWN small hands but simple day to day life it is such a struggle.
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