What is Asperger Syndrome
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is chara...
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A majority of the time I feel socially isolated and lonely. when theres a group of people talking I usually feel left out no matter how hard I try to join in. Sometimes people see me as coming across as rude but they are ignorant and dont understand how much im struggling.
my brain is slow at processing information so when people talking really quickly i cant keep up, though if they talk slowly i find it easier. most the time people talk quite fast so its really difficult for me to join in. I end up feeling left out and frustrated and upset because its like im invisable and cant be seen. i see others say what they say but i just dont understand what im doing wrong and why i feel so left out. whats going on? does anybody understand this? anyone else feel the same way? Posted on 08/15/09, 01:08 pm |
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Yes I can understand this I find it very hard to join in conversations. It
much harder with people you do not know or when at parties large gatherings when people are vying for attention. My problem is mainly because I have problems with my speech that people do not understand me and move away. It may be best sopmetime just to listen to the group and get to know more details about the subject of conversation before joining in 
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Hmmm...could you have a bit of ADHD? I understand that's very common along with the AS. My mother has it. It's a bit of an attention problem, for her though it involves her jumping rapidly from topic to topic, making it difficult for others to follow her train of thought.
From the way you describe things, it sounds like you might have a similar thing but with listening and hearing rather than my mother's challenge with speaking. A short fix might simply be to mention to other that you have difficulty hearing (which would be true)and people would then look at you directly while speaking. It might help.
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It may be that the one thing ALL Aspies have in common is an ineffable sense of being an outsider.
You can never go wrong by asking people about themselves and generally showing an interest. It makes others believe that you are the most intelligent, fascinating person on earth.
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BTW, Wendyhi, a diagnosis of AS supercedes/ excludes a diganosis of ADHD. You can't have both. people who think they have both, and their pig-ignorant doctors, have not read the DSM.
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You have described me perfectly :D
I am high functioning autistic, and I know EXACTLY how you feel. Maybe if you want to add me as a friend we could chat more about it. I could give u some advice. What I do is "people watch". Just sit, or stand, and watch. Watch how someone comes up and gets into the conversation. Watch how they interact to certain things. Watch how they socialize. It really does help. And most of the time I end up watching wether I want to or not. LOL. But ya. I know EXACTLY how you. You are not stupid or crazy, you are aspergers and/or autistic. And its ok. There are plently of others out there just the same. And I do know how hard it is, I really do. I am 18 and its SO HARD not to be "normal" like all my friends. I KNOW how you feel! Send me a message if u wanna chat more! :)
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