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does anyone worry about being able to handle their own life?
do you w
orry about having to depend on others to take care of you>

or that you will end up in a mental health facility....

with all of my credentials...education , etc this is unlikely to happen to me..
but i worry that my anxiety will steal my entire life?
is this rational
thx for listening
Posted on 06/30/12, 03:00 am
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Reply #1 - 06/30/12  2:10pm
" Ending up in mental health facility is one of my biggest fears. Although on the outside it seems im handling life well, single mother of three children and in college, and managing a household....I still feel like I am losing my mind most of the time. I would love for this feeling to go away! Im scared that im just gonna wake up one day and not know who I am or be able to function. I hope you feel better soon. "
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Reply #2 - 06/30/12  2:10pm
" Ending up in mental health facility is one of my biggest fears. Although on the outside it seems im handling life well, single mother of three children and in college, and managing a household....I still feel like I am losing my mind most of the time. I would love for this feeling to go away! Im scared that im just gonna wake up one day and not know who I am or be able to function. I hope you feel better soon. "
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Reply #3 - 06/30/12  4:04pm
" Turn the thoughts to new projects, or something that reminds you of what you are doing now.

Hope you feel better soon. "
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Reply #4 - 06/30/12  4:04pm
" I fear anxiety is stealing my entire life, like you said. Every decision I want to do is run by my anxiety. I have to force myself to do any proactive step in life. All I want is to hide away. My jobs, my family, my friends-everything that is supposed to be my rock, my security, I feel can be taken away from me at any moment so I never completely trust. (well, in this economy is better to be wary of job security).

Maybe this is what everyone feels- although many people do seem comfortable in their own skin and life. But maybe they are scared but plow through and don't show it.

I feel like I can't live my life because there is so much I don't know. I sometimes feel like my husband is a bit like a parent. I am ashamed to admit it, but it's true.

Anxiety isn't rational. I obsess about things I don't need to. A part of me knows it's crazy, and unncessary, and yet I can't help it.

Are you mostly worried about not being independent? Why do you feel that you aren't? "
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Reply #5 - 07/01/12  9:44pm
" Yes I do all the time, then I stayed by self last week with power out and was fine! God had my back take baby steps. "
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Reply #6 - 07/01/12  9:58pm
" I can totally relate to this. About 6 years ago I had an episode of severe anxiety with agrophobia. I couldn't leave the house alone or be by myself in the house. I was 17 n needed my mommy all the time. I felt like a 2 year old. N it was so embarrassing.

After getting on meds and going to therapy, my anxiety got so much better. I even got off the meds. And thought about moving out, that I was able to live on my own n be ok to be alone.

Well 3 months ago that all came to a screeching hult. I started having this pain in my left side and the drs can't figure it out.

I'm freaked out so much.... My nerves are horribly on edge all the time, I feel like I can't breathe, I feel like I'm in a constant state of panic and I even looked at going into an anxiety clinic for 2 weeks to see if something would help me. But unfortunately, there's not a good one where I live.

I feel like the anxiety is over my head and I can't deal with it. Even tho everyone says im improving a little each day and that I'm not as bad as I was 6 years ago, I can't help it, I feel like I'm right back there worse than ever.

So no your not alone, just keep on pushing thru and work on relaxation and deep breathing. Apparently that works a lot. "
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Reply #7 - 07/01/12  11:04pm
" I was really bad off a year and a half ago. I was not agoraphobic, so I could manage shopping for myself, but I couldn't work because I was so exhausted and I was pretty suicidal. Entering a one-year program really helped me because I didn't have to worry about the day to day things anymore. This program still required you to take care of yourself (prepare meals, help keep the place clean, drive yourself to anything needed outside the facility) but money wasn't a problem during the program and my 'job' was to rest and get better. I've been out of it for 6 months and am working a little here and there, but nothing full-time or heavy. I'm also enrolled in classes again, which is one of the things I had to give up when I got really bad. This program I was in is specifically for people with a cult background, and it is amazing and has totally turned my life around.

So, I guess my point is, if you need a break and some good professional help and have that opportunity, take it! My anxiety and mental health issues were controlling my life, but because I took the time to focus on it, rest and recover, I am no longer in that place and am no longer emotionally dependent. I'm financially dependent for other health reasons (just had to move back in with my parents) but I have hope that I will improve and get to the point that I can work full-time. "
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Reply #8 - 07/01/12  11:05pm
" I was really bad off a year and a half ago. I was not agoraphobic, so I could manage shopping for myself, but I couldn't work because I was so exhausted and I was pretty suicidal. Entering a one-year program really helped me because I didn't have to worry about the day to day things anymore. This program still required you to take care of yourself (prepare meals, help keep the place clean, drive yourself to anything needed outside the facility) but money wasn't a problem during the program and my 'job' was to rest and get better. I've been out of it for 6 months and am working a little here and there, but nothing full-time or heavy. I'm also enrolled in classes again, which is one of the things I had to give up when I got really bad. This program I was in is specifically for people with a cult background, and it is amazing and has totally turned my life around.

So, I guess my point is, if you need a break and some good professional help and have that opportunity, take it! My anxiety and mental health issues were controlling my life, but because I took the time to focus on it, rest and recover, I am no longer in that place and am no longer emotionally dependent. I'm financially dependent for other health reasons (just had to move back in with my parents) but I have hope that I will improve and get to the point that I can work full-time. "
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Reply #9 - 07/01/12  11:06pm
" I was really bad off a year and a half ago. I was not agoraphobic, so I could manage shopping for myself, but I couldn't work because I was so exhausted and I was pretty suicidal. Entering a one-year program really helped me because I didn't have to worry about the day to day things anymore. This program still required you to take care of yourself (prepare meals, help keep the place clean, drive yourself to anything needed outside the facility) but money wasn't a problem during the program and my 'job' was to rest and get better. I've been out of it for 6 months and am working a little here and there, but nothing full-time or heavy. I'm also enrolled in classes again, which is one of the things I had to give up when I got really bad. This program I was in is specifically for people with a cult background, and it is amazing and has totally turned my life around.

So, I guess my point is, if you need a break and some good professional help and have that opportunity, take it! My anxiety and mental health issues were controlling my life, but because I took the time to focus on it, rest and recover, I am no longer in that place and am no longer emotionally dependent. I'm financially dependent for other health reasons (just had to move back in with my parents) but I have hope that I will improve and get to the point that I can work full-time. "
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Reply #10 - 07/01/12  11:07pm
" I was really bad off a year and a half ago. I was not agoraphobic, so I could manage shopping for myself, but I couldn't work because I was so exhausted and I was pretty suicidal. Entering a one-year program really helped me because I didn't have to worry about the day to day things anymore. This program still required you to take care of yourself (prepare meals, help keep the place clean, drive yourself to anything needed outside the facility) but money wasn't a problem during the program and my 'job' was to rest and get better. I've been out of it for 6 months and am working a little here and there, but nothing full-time or heavy. I'm also enrolled in classes again, which is one of the things I had to give up when I got really bad. This program I was in is specifically for people with a cult background, and it is amazing and has totally turned my life around.

So, I guess my point is, if you need a break and some good professional help and have that opportunity, take it! My anxiety and mental health issues were controlling my life, but because I took the time to focus on it, rest and recover, I am no longer in that place and am no longer emotionally dependent. I'm financially dependent for other health reasons (just had to move back in with my parents) but I have hope that I will improve and get to the point that I can work full-time. "

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