What is Anxiety
Anxiety refers to a complex combination of negative emotions that includes fear, apprehension and worry, and is often accompanied by physical sensations such as palpitations, nause...
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Why can i not be anxiety free in my marriage?
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I was a ass hole in the first three quarters of our relationship. I would ignore her and get irratated with her when she would want to cuddle with me and other stuff i was just not a nice person. Well about four months ago some kind of switch went off in my head and all of a sudden when i realized what i was doing to my wife i wanted to change. Well come to find out acting the way i did sent her down a path that i did not know about. She had been distancing herself from me and i was to careless to realize it. Well now the tables have turned i am the one always trying to find affection and i am always the one going to her. When we fight it seems like she could care less like she has taken away her ability to be vulnerable. I can not tell you how how bad i have screwed my self. i feel anxiety over just about everything now. i am always trying to love on her and get a feeling that she is still crazy about me and that seems to be gone. I have totally lost myself i do not know who i am our how to act. I can not have a healthy relationship this way. I try everyday to find away to understand that she loves me and that this is just going to take me being patient. but i cant i am really messing up my life with this horrible feeling i get in my stomach wich i think to be anxiety. I need some friend to talk to about this kind of stuff cause if i do not find some soon and get a bearing on my life my marriage will not be around much longer because i am going to drive her away.
Posted on 11/04/09, 06:11 pm |
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Dan, have you suggested marriage counseling to her? Or have you sought doctors or counseling help yet just for yourself? you might just say you mean so much to me, I am going to get counseling, will you go with me? or something very loving and sweet.
Some of what you are feeling I am sure, is guilt. That would weigh so heavy on your heart and be difficult to deal with that might indeed lead to anxiety and a feeling of overwhelmingness. I wish you the best. 
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yes we learn to cope on our own when we dont get much support or understanding from our partners, its not that she has lost the ability to be vunerable, she probably distanced herself so she didnt get more anxiety from being rejectedi feel sorry for anyone who has mental health problems its terrible as you now realise. But unless people have this them selfs they dont realise.
i think you both would benefit from some sort of counceling. Good luck to you both. vonny x
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I was married 9 years to a man that wouldn't listen or be supportive of what I needed. Slowly I was drifting away then it was too late. We did get counseling in the end and it was very helpful. I believe the key is to get counseling now and remind her of why she fell in love with you by being that person. Talk to her, let her know what you're going through and she may be able to relate or have suggestions. These things take time, have faith.
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