Anxiety Support Group

Welcome to the site Lex! :-)

Sorry to hear about your job. My sister was laid off last week and my company has been tightening the belt this past fiscal year by eliminating raises, bonuses and recently they did layoff several people.

You are not alone! In the worst recession since the 1930's you can give yourself a break and blame forces outside your control.

What is bothering you about your unemployment? Is it the money? Feeling useful?

I've seen news pieces on TV about people using social netwroking sites like Facebook to broadcast their availability. People are also adjusting their expectations and taking jobs under their skill levels to make ends meet.

Another suggestion I have for you is don't obsess. Give yourself the weekend off from job hunting or even discussing your situation. Do the same each day, give yourself a couple hours to rest, have fun or do anything except worry about the job.

I was asked if I could do my job in March, and at that time I didn't feel I could without missing more days of work. I have been in the hospital most the summer with bipolar depression, now I am out and feeling better but I think one of the jobs I applied for was a mistake. I got an interview with them yesterday. I just don't know if I can work those long hours and over nights... 6pm to 6 am, up to 3 days a week... or maybe a day instead of a night just feeling in where I can... I would have to move... I am scared... it is hard in these times to get a job and one that you like.

I can totally relate to this---I just lost my job a month ago and I also have been very emotional. It's a really hard time, but keep reminding yourself that it's not your fault that you lost your job, that it was because of economic downsizing. Keep telling yourself that, that's what I'm doing. Just when I start to feel like it was my fault, I repeat it again. I've also been applying to lots and lots of jobs and have been receiving little to no responses-It is just a hard time and a lot of people are looking. I have found that any success I've had in getting an interview has come from network connections---maybe you can attend trade meetings or join an association to make some connections and broaden your network?

I wish you all the best of luck. Remember (as type it here, I'm reminding myself) it's not your fault, and you'll find something awesome soon. Good luck!!!

I so sorry about your job. I have a different spin to offer. Like you, I have just lost my job. however, my job was mothering. Bare with me. My only son left for college. I have been feeling useless. Being a mother was my life, I was good at it. Now my job is over. My son is doing wonderful on his own. He is thriving in all ways, just as it should be. However, I am not needed anymore. I know thats just how its supposed to be, but this "empty nest" has got me pretty depressed. So I thought about it for awhile, trying to figure out what exactly was my emotion. Worthless came to mind. Everything that gave me worth was over. People recommended taking a pottery class or something to occupy my time but that wouldn't have done it, I needed more. Than it hit me. I still needed to do something that counted and pottery wasn't it. I need to make a difference, even small, in something. I need to regain my worth. So I've decided to look into volunteering at the Seabird Santuary or Help with reading at the Elementary school. I think a lot of us find worth in our jobs and when our jobs are taken away we go through these feelings of worthlessness. But it can come from other places. Even though there is no money involved, it lifts the spirit and who knows where it could lead. Good Luck.

i am in nyc as well and i am 27...hard...do not worry - you will find your place - just keep searching...as specially when you would not expect - they will call to you - that happened to me!!!