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Thoughts on love....
Posted by zybasima - 11/01/09, 03:14 am I was reading a lovely book called "Endless Light" by David Aaron and it talks about love and how to truly love people. It discusses love between males and females but I suppose theoretically you could apply these things to anyone. Here is an excerpt. Lost in Love There is a key difference between falling in love and real love. When I fall in love, I am not opening up a space within myself to include you. I am not offering you an environment in which you will develop your unique sense of who you are. When I fall in love, I do nothing of the sort. I am simply collapsing ME, and if you do the same, we lose our identities in the process. There is no respect for the uniqueness of the other; there is just a merging; and this is why we so often feel LOST in love. We lose our individual identities; we both nullify ourselves as we merge into an undifferentiated experience. The mystery of true love is that two become one yet that one remains two. However, when we fall in love, the two become one and that one becomes none. Not surprisingly there is a sense of dreaminess about falling in love, a sense of fantasy not based on reality, that seems also to nullify a sense of responsibility. We then may find ourselves doing things that, later on, will be seen as irresponsible. Why? Because responsibility is the ability to respond to another. For that there has to be another! For that there has to be a me, there has to be a you- two different people who understand each other and respond to each other. I found this quite interesting. For the longest time, I have tried to make my husband, kids and friends into something I thought they should be and not appreciating them for their uniqueness. This explains, at least somewhat, why it has not yielded the proper results. I need to find a way to appreciate their uniqueness while still finding some common ground with them. Love sure is a lot harder than it looks in the movies eh? When I read more useful comments I will post them. Have a great day everyone! Posted on 11/01/09, 03:11 am |
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