Anger Management Support Group

hey there
i am a firm believer that there are underlying issues at hand when someone is angry.
my therapist says that anger is a secondary emotion. something else triggers that emotion. and for you (and for me) its the one that we go to ALL the time. some people get depressed, some binge eat, some cry, whatever. we get angry.
i have figured out what has triggered mine and i am seeking help.
you may need to seek help in just trying to figure out what is making you angry. that is the first step. once you find out WHAT the issues are then you can start to fix yourself.
one thing i notice in your profile is you like martial arts? that i think is a good way to work out the anger. when you start to feel yourself getting angry, instead of going off on family and friends, go hit the heavy bag instead. now rest assured, this is not solving the problem, but it is a way of not taking it out on your loved ones.
seek out a good counsellor. find out the issues. and your on your way.
good luck

Thanks PM i think i will take you advice on the counsellor thing because i have been meaning to go see one about the issue fial or a long time now but havent felt confident about it because im one to be very negative towards things such as counselling because i have seen alot of people do it and get nowhere with it . But i think i will give it a shot because as they say noone is ever the same. And with the martial arts it helps but not always because as you said it doesnt solve the problem so i cant keep turning to that. Its like a couple of weeks ago i was in a fight practice with one of the other students and because i was angry i ended up really hurt him ...... Thanks for the help Both of you .. Take care ..x

You sound like my daughter..I'm still trying to figure her out.
If you have family and friends that are trying to help you REACH OUT TO THEM! Don't push them away. Some people have no one no one to talk to. Think of others. Just take a deep breath count to 10 and think about how you will hurt them with your words.

I think you may find this article interesting:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...

I have found, for myself, that going to a therapist or doctor & talking it out has helped. I still have flareups, but it's not like it was. Another thing I discovered is I was more angry at my family, friends, and generally the world when I was dissatisfied with my own life.

Good luck. I have been in your same shoes. You can make it through.

Pass thanks for the advise buut to be really honest with yuu its not as easy as that if yuu felt the angry that comes from inside of me yuu might understand ! but thanks anyways x cmc thanks thats really nice see i dont have alot of people around me that seem to understand what it is like x thanks for the advise i will try it x an i will let yuu know how it goes x

my anger problems comes from disappointment in my family members. it seems that i am the only one that will clean the house, tend to the dog, go shopping,etc. all the things it takes to run a home. i ask for help but get ignored. we end up yelling about things not done after a verbal committment. should i leave? will they adapt when i am gone? i am 62 and don't have alot of time. tired of confrontation, disappointment, unclean house. any suggestions, this has been ongoing for over 12 years.

I agree totally with PMP, but even though I know the underlying issues, I don't know how to move past the anger involved. How do you learn to deal with the wrongs that have been done to you? They can't be taken back, an apology isn't going to cut it, and you can't bring back the dead. So how can you move on, and deal with the anger? Amiie, I think you do need to figure out what is the cause of your anger, it may help you try to not take you anger out on everyone, but will it ever go away? I'm not sure that is an answer anyone can really answer.