Amputees Support Group

I HAVE OFTEN WONDERED ABOUT THAT TOO...IM ABK AND IM SINGLE.. IM JUST TRYING TO ADJUST FOR DATING LET ALONE SEX... CONNIE

Just take it easy with hubby! Tell him after surgery heals up and you feel in the mood, just let him know that it doesn`t hurt you to have pressure on them! Just dont push issue to quick and ask him what he feels about it all. Get his side before you persue this issue!

GL,
Dalcowcraig

As a guy, I cannot comment on your question. I will say (for the record) to be cautious with any replies especially to the one other lady who did respond. There is a group of men out there who are attracted to amputees - some kind of sexual turn on for them. They approached my support group (quite innocently) and wanted to help us???? What they really wanted was our mailing list. At first I was shocked. Then, I realized there are lots of folks in this world and a bunch of them are attracted to one thing or another as a sexual turn on. And, I am sure they watch discussion groups like this so just be careful with anything you receive comment wise.
regards
john

Not to worry ladies...your beauty is within you and not lost by an amputation. It makes life different but only if you see it that way. If you was sexy before you are sexy now. It's all in how a woman feels . I think lol

Thanks for the suggestions everyone and the warning (I forgot about that issue...). My being confident will go a long way....

Hey La1
If you have a strong relationship...
then sex happens between the ears...the rest of the body...is just a tool...the make the between the ears part happy...

have fun...

Frosty

Hi La1:

I am a single male, and I have the same fears. From the position of being a single person, I hope to eventually find a partner. In doing so, I intend to be completely open about the amputation from day one; and as the persons' affections for me grow, then I think that their comfort level will as well... and, then, maybe physical intimacy will ensue.

As this relates to your married situation, it sounds like you have a great relationship (I am happy for you) and his affections for you are already completely solid. As such, so is his attraction to you. Therefore, from my limited comprehension and lack of experience, I would suggest that the comfort level with your body is going to be largely on your plate, not his. It might be beneficial for your own self-acceptance and positive body-image to embrace HIS acceptance of and attraction to you in all facets including your amputations.

It sounds like all will be more than well with you and your husband; and I certainly wish you both the best in this regards!
Chad

I wish I had an easy answer for you but I'm still struggling with the issue myself. I'm an older woman with a LBK amputation. Its been 3 years now and I'm real cautious about relationships. It doesn't help that I work in a field that deals with sexual assault and domestic violence. Sorry I'm not much help.
Arlene

I'll give you my view point from a male's perspective. I was married for over 25 yrs, I'm divorced, but not because of my amp. I have 5 kids from that marriage. I'm a hip=disartic since 5 years old. One of the highest levels. Not much of a stump. I now have a girlfriend for the past 3 yrs. Not once does my amputation come into play. she loves me, I love her.I have no problem satisfying her nor she me. look beyond your being an amputee. True love comes from the heart.Even my ex, before our problems, looked at me not from what I was missing but from what I was made of. Treat your husband as you always have. It will be hard but he will see you as you have always been.It is really up to you, to remain strong, to have confidence in yourself. Just be yourself. I wish you the best.

As long as it wasn't your heart that was amped you'll be okay. And also the words of wisdom from skiking-there's a lot of guy out there who have an amputee fetish....be careful.