Amnesia Support Group

I went through a divorce when I found out I had been suffering from dissociative amnesia. I woke up married and with two kids but never even remembered leaving my boyfriend from six years before. I was drugged at a night club (1993)and couldn't get back to that time for over 16 years. Even the next day and three months after the drugging I couldn't comprehend what people were telling me about that night or my boyfriend. I don't even remember breaking up with him or what he said. I just vanished and he was a blur. We were off and on for 4 1/2 years and it wasn't until his friend (a police officer) answered my call for spousal abuse (back in 2001) that I thought of my lost love. It was almost as if I had for gotten our date the night before. I know I loved that man since the age of 18 (I am now 37) but it was as if I couldn't "see him." I am trying to cope with the fact that even when I gained knowledge of him... and knew I was "in love" with him... that I still didn't comprehend the whole matter. I once again went on with my life. I know I phoned him twice at the very least in that absent time frame but for shallow reasons and as if he were just a voice over the phone doing his job. I couldn't hear "him." I feel for you and share this advice. Look at old photos. Go to the places you use to go and listen to music or watch movies of that era. It might help. Music has triggered memories for me. Try taking some time away and in a quiet location away from stress and relax as you are trying to think. And don't think too hard. It shouldn't be stressful or cause strain. Good Luck.

Secondtime,
It is nice to hear that someone else has been through this too. Any suggestions as to how to deal with the emotions that come up when something triggers? Would you recommend going on? So many people around me tell me that I have to remember my past cause that is what makes me, me. Can I move on? Do I have to remember my past to move on? There are so many bad things that scare me. I found out that I was diagnosed with chronic and delayed PTSD from 4 combat tours. I am scared that this might come beck. Do you know of any others that I can contact for advice on how to handle all of this? I know nothing about my soon to be ex, or any of my kids. Part of me feels like this should hurt. But I don't, and I feel like crap because of that. I have been told that I did things that to me seem completely against everything I believe. Some around me tell me they can't see me doing those things either. This is mainly from my ex. Some ask who would know me better than her, but in the same breath they tell me they can't believe what she has said. I have received the advice to not to trust anyone, how far should I take that? I am sorry about all the questions!! I just haven't found anyone else that can understand where I am. Thank you!!

Please, as a girlfriend of a man in the service who has just been hit with amnesia, to be with the ones that love you. My boyfriend has no memories of our four years together when only a few days before he was hit was telling me how much he loved me and i was telling him how much i loved him. It broke my heart to hear him so indifferent to who i was because of his injury. Let them be near you as much as you can.....