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My grandmother helped raise me and was my mother figure so to see her like this kills me. I actually avoid going to my grandparents house b/c i can't handle it. Today I went over there and she went on about how she wishes her and I can run away together b/c she is sick of being with my grandfather. She couldn't remember my boyfriends name and she didn't know if my other grandmother had died or not (she passed in 2001). she then tells me she saw me on tv, my grandpa says they were watching American Funniest Video and she swears it was me on there...
I use to go to her and talk to her about my problems and she ALWAYS made me feel better, I tried today (i'm at point where i need her so badly) and she didn't have a clue what I was talking about. I just want my grandmother back, I am having such a hard time with this but try to not show anyone. Posted on 07/04/12, 04:45 pm |
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It is heartbreaking to see someone you love decline this way. Alzheimer's hurts the whole family. All you can do is try to be as
understanding as you can. She can't help it.. she doesn't mean to hurt you. Your grandfather will need your support and help in many ways, too. My heart breaks for every family going through this monsterous disease. 
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I understand how you feel :( My grandma isn't to the extent that yours is (yet), but she is definitely not the same grandma that I could talk to about anything, who could cheer me up and make me laugh even though all I wanted to do was cry.
I'm sorry you are going though this. I avoid going to my grandparents house too...it's like if I don't see it, it's not happening. But it IS. And the more I avoid it, the more I miss out on seeing her in the time she has left! I think we just have to work on accepting this is happening, mourning the grandma/loved one we used to know, and loving the one we have. And learning how to help them as much as we can. Deep down, they are the same person, they just can't show it. Hugs!
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Thank u both for the kind words. I told myself that from here on out I will go see her at least once a week. She has done so much for me in my life. I miss her n pray everyday she would just go back to her old self.
Your right they are still their self just cant communicate with us like they did. Big hugs.... I'm always here to chat if needed.
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Hugs my story is sort of similar to yours
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This is really a heartbreaking journey...I do believe that the person with Alzheimer's knows we are their 'person' althought they may not have too many details, just a feeling that we matter in a good way...and I believe that being loving, affectionate and attentive helps them enourmously..
We who have been there really do know your heartbreak..... Hugs....
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These girls are right ....we have all been there. Just because they can't communicate with you doesn't mean they don't recognize you. You may be helping her more than you can imagine just by going there and sitting with her and holding her hand. Talk to her like you always did, just don't expect answers that make sense. She ( and you) will know in your heart that you are there for her. I'm sure this is a very scary time for her also.
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