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When To Tell Alzheimers patient
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When is the best time to inform an Alzheimers patient they will be moving to a nursing home? I have thought about this alot. Thinking about it even more now that we know mom will be admitted to a nursing home next Wednesday. I think we tell her just before taking her. The less time for mom to stress the better, but then maybe I am thinking about myself and not her. Any advice? Please. Marcia
Posted on 07/17/09, 05:07 pm |
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I don't tell my husband anything until right before, and this includes good news. He seems to take ANY kind of change with stress and so I find it is best not let him have to go over and over it in his mind. 
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I would wait until just before taking her but also depends on just how much memory she has left. If she can't remember something a few minutes after telling her then it would be pointless to go over this move with her until the day/night before.
Does she know where she is now? If she is confused on that she may not notice much difference with the change. I guess her level of awareness should be your guide. Regardless the move may be confusing and painful for her. I do hope you will be able to have some of her favorite little things to take along. I know some facilities are just great, even allowing some personal furntiure to be brought in and I think the more of home that can go wiht them the easier the adjustment.
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Thanks, mom asked the same question over and over. I have a feeling the mention of a nursing home she just might remember. Never know with this illness. Dad and I talked and we decided we would tell her the morning she is going. That will most likely be next Wednesday. I am trying to write a list of what to take with us the first day. My mind wanders so that I can not think. The nursing home said she is allowed her private lift chair. This is getting worse and worse. Marcia
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Mom is now in the nursing home. We decided to not tell her until the morning of the move. It was our thought it would be easier on dad. If mom were to remember the conversation she would make dads life terrible that last night. Plus telling her two hours before we left never left dad home alone with her. As it was even though she was told she had no idea where we were going while in the car. I asked mom where we were going, after we left the house, and she said she imagined to see the Dr. She had completly forgotten that heart wrenching conversation about going to a nursing home. It actually went better then any of us thought. Now, the rest of us are drained and exhausted. Dad slept 20 hours out of the first 24 hours here. Marcia
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