What is Alopecia Areata
Alopecia areata ("baldness in spots") is a form of hair loss from areas of the body, usually from the scalp. Because it causes bald spots on the head especially in the first stages...
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I am having a hard time dealing with this condition. And I have had it for 10yrs. I had a boyfriend for 9 years and he was with me from the beginning stages. We broke up two years ago. Although the relationship was sour a long time ago, I stuck around much longer because I thought nobody will accept me like this. I accepted things in that relationship that was out of my character out of fear of rejection.
I finally got the guts to date again, but I never allowed anyone to get close. I would end it within 2 months. Until I started dating this great guy for the 5 months, when we started dating I obviously had the condition and he didn't seem to mind. But in the last two months it got really bad. I couldn't wear my hair out anymore. I was wearing a scarf all the time. I didn't feel pretty and started pushing him away. We broke up a week ago. I miss him but I don't think we will get back together. How have you dealt with AA and dating? Do you talk about your condition from the beginning? How have you found acceptance Posted on 03/18/08, 08:03 pm |
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I understand your fears. I lost all of my hair 5 years ago during the second month of a new relationship. I hadn't told him about my hidden bald spots up until the point where all my hair started to fall out. Knowing I no longer had a choice, I had to tell him. It was one of the scariest things I ever did, because I really liked this guy and I was sure he'd be gone once he found out I was soon going to be bald. He could sense there was something wrong lately and when I told him the truth, he said "that's all. I thought there was something really wrong with you". He completely accepted it and I know there are many others out there that will too. That boyfriend, who is now my husband, and I did break up for awhile two years later for reasons completely unrelated to my hair loss. During that time I dated another guy who I decided not to tell right away. I wear an extremely natural looking wig, that has fooled many people. So I waited two months to tell him, but it was eating at me. When I finally caved and told him, he too was very accepting of it. I'm sure there are guys out there who are so superficial they wouldn't be so accepting. But I think that we are lucky to have a way to weed those guys out. In reality do you really want to be involved with someone that superficial anyway.
If you haven't yet, you may want to seriously consider a hair piece. My wig has helped my confidence a ton. I actually feel more attractive in it then I ever did in my real hair. It's amazing the variety of hair pieces out there and how natural they can look. Let me know if you need any tips on that. :) 
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I think it is important to tell someone as soon as it looks like you both are interested. In fact the sooner the better. My situation is a bit different, because I no longer wear wigs, they already know there is something with my hair. I use it as a stregnth, and it works. The thing is in not telling someone, it always looms over the realationship and it is hard for us to be comfortable until we finally tell the person. There was an interesting Forum on the subject here.
http://www.alopeciaworld.com/forum...
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I have been dealing with this since I was ten now I am 35. If its ever happened I feel it has happened to me.BUZZ me we can discuss this and mabey I can help
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i've had some mixed experiences. for me, things started getting really bad when i was with my most serious boyfriend. we were already very much in love, so telling him wasn't that difficult. he complimented my hats, and played with my hair when we were alone.
after we broke up, i talked to different guys, but would always have my hair up or in a hat if we were in close contact. i felt no need to tell them, because things weren't really going anywhere. recently, i started dating someone and freaked out every time he touched my hair. one day he asked why it bothered me so much, and i told him. i still haven't showed him, but he now leaves my hats on, and avoids [playfully] pulling at my hair. i hope that sort of helps. it's not much advice but i guess it's nice to know that other people deal with the same questions!
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i have alopecia and my wife also.
read my journal www.newlacecu.com it's no spam it's the email of a person that can resolve your problem. sorry for my bad english.pedro
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Well i was engaged when i lost my hair and that man was not nice to me. We broke up after 5 years and then I started dating. I always told about my alopecia immediatly and to my big surprise no one reacted badly to it. No one. The more relaxed and natural I was about the condition the more relaxed the guys seemed to be. And belive me I was a serial dater :)
Still I didnt show my head to anyone until it got really serious. Only 3 men have seen me totally bald and they were all relaxed about it. Now i live together with my bf and fiance. We got engaged a year ago and he always tells me that Im beautiful without wigs and scarves. When we are at home and i wear something on my head he usually pulls it off because he likes me better natural. I think its easier for a man to accept this condition if he didnt knew u before you lost your hair. But thats just my theory. Dont be scared, just go out there. U are beautiful - with or without hair. I promise!
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