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Hi all,
So I am looking for some ideas. My Girl friend has been sober 6 months and is doing well. But AA meetings here are small (2-3 people much of the time) and very cowboy/male dominated and its a little hard for her to really connect at times. We live in a VERY small community in Wyoming where the nearest town is more than an hour away and we have 3 young kids we are raising while working full time, so time is a precious thing. There is a womens meeting once a week here that she goes to, but it starts the moment she gets off work so its hard to get there and still eat dinner and help kids with homework and such. I have told her I will take the kids and do all that stuff so she can hit that meeting and then have coffee after maybe - a night to herself with people in recovery and all that. So that should help. But again...its a really small meeting and its not unusual for only 2 people to be there week after week. My home group is on Monday nights and I am a male cowboy type so I fit right in. I have been sober many years now and know the importance of meeting attendance but I really do see what she is talking about in terms of finding a group she can connect to. So I am wondering what else is out there for my lady love to try? We have an NA group I guess she could look at. There is a therapist is town, but that might be a little to expensive for us. I just don't know. I got sober through AA and am a big believer in that program. But it seems like there are other avenues to recovery I hear about now and I am leery of them...but if they would work for her maybe she could look into them. Hell I don't know. Thoughts? Posted on 11/04/09, 11:11 am |
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I have a friend here, Mschif, who swears by the Rhonda Lenair method:
http://lenair.com/ There are others such as Rational Recovery, SMART and of course a spiritual program maybe as in church. AA is, as you know, a spiritual program so in my mind others like may be a good fit. Good luck...... 
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I know you want help her with all your heart.
I got sober in a similiar town, 1 1/2hrs from a stoplight. 2 sober men however. We were considered a "remote" AA group. No woman to relate with. I stayed sober 5yrs...till I moved away and got scared of big meetings lol. Let my spirituality wane also. I did not have a computer them....now there is so much on line, With all respect...it seems abit co-dependant for you to be inquirying on her behalf. She can come here....Lots of support of all types and styles. Her sobriety is her path and it is wonderful you are so supportive. Best of Luck! Gotta love those small towns :)
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OMG
Cranky that program is amazing expensive!!!!!!!!!! $1,800 deposit? eeeeek *gags* I am on SS but thx for the info.........AA is free
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Why not start your own meeting and call it the Easier, Softer Way Group or something else like that to suggest a less macho approach? You might be surprised to find out how many other people in your area have been avoiding AA for the same reasons that you've described.
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What Nemo said
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I like that...I could have one at my home maybe? We used to do that years ago when I lived in Chicago. We will see I guess.
I'll clue her in to on line meetings and perhaps she will like those. Thanks everyone!
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She can try NA too. They welcome Alcoholics because it's a drug, duh.
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There are on-line AA groups....maybe check them out.
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why are you on here again asking questions regarding HER recovery?
why isn't she asking them? I'm with mindlight all the way on this. I suggested Al Anon to you last time. You obviously didn't look into it. She might get better if you work on you and leave her to those who can really help her. Your fear is palpable.
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Wow! I don't remember asking you to take my inventory. I have gone to Alanon,and will continue to hit those meetings once in a while.
I am here because I have internet access and she doesn't. Gosh it must get hard knowing what is best for everyone. Quite a burden. Good luck with that. Beyond that I don't feel like I need to justify anything so I'll just kind of hang this up for now.
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