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that statement (#20) is the beginning of getting better. It took courage to say those words and I am glad to meet that person of courage. Stay with us Starzz. The truth is here if your willing to accept it. just remember. You will be asked to think so be ready. And know we will ALL be here to help you find the direction. Even this old asshole, lol.

truth? will set you free?

yes, but what is truth? is it self or the ramblings of self proclaimed prophets of those who have over come?

no offense.

truth is found in the heart and no outsider can teach that......it is found through pain, abandonment, loss, regret and tears.......the lucky ones see.....and act.

the not so fortunate produce pizza rolls......which is my life source.....:)

all i can suggest is to stop listening to the ambient voices....evaluate your life and goals......focus on heart.....nothing else matters.........judgment is held to you, your heart and that star which you believe.

Starzz, This is the only fatal disease that are thinking will tell us we don't have a disease. Just like drinking those 3 beers you had. There might come a time, tomorrow, next week, month or year you will think back to those 3 beers and think ya know I just had 3 back when ever so I should be able to do it again. Well maybe that next time will start that compulsion to where you can't stop.
If you don't want to some one to share there exp. just put them on ignore and take care of that problem.

I know for myself if someone ask be not comment on there post and I know they are struggling I'm pretty certain I would respect that request.

Take care and hope tomorrow is better than today.

My dad was an alcoholic, too. Both my brother and I developed alcoholism. I am the only one who has chosen recovery in my family. My dad and brother have both passed away now. I wish they could have gotten sober and found recovery before they died, but they didn't. Well, I will live my life well. My path doesn't have to be their path. The same is true of you. If it turns out you are alcoholic, you can choose a different path than your dad did. You can choose the recovery path. You can choose life and wellness.

I have experienced a lot of trauma in my life, too. Much of my drinking career was about avoiding pain. I didn't want to feel the despair, the rage, the terror. The thing is that trying to avoid feeling those things made them worse. It made me really sick with both PTSD, depression and alcoholism. When I got sober, I had to look at the trauma and process it. The funny thing was, that dealing with it wasn't as scary as I'd built it up to be. Once I confronted my fears, they lost their power over me. The depression lifted, too. Sobriety gave me a new lease on life.

I've tested myself like that before too. I can go out with friends and just have a few. But I always seem to hit the point where I binge for a few weeks. When I think back to what started it, I find it was the couple of nights I just had a few. It's just easier not to test myself.

Great job on the 33 days and on just having 3 like you planned. Be careful that you don't relapse.

hey cutie, no one, no one can make you an alcoholic. Just dos'nt happen that way.

Starzz, I went 21 (maybe even a few more) days at the begining of the year as part of a fast and thought that I proved to myself that I wasn't an alcoholic. Then I thought that it would be nice to have a couple of glasses of wine with dinner one night that went fine...next thing I know I'm on here a couple of weeks ago asking others opinions of wether or not I was an alcoholic because of recent and past expereinces. Then I found myself looking in the mirror yesterday morning at the beautiful face you see as my pic, with no knowledge of what the hell really happened the night before.

So I said all of that to say...be careful...It's your call but if I were you I would do what I am going to do and not drink anymore...at all.

As far as suffering from depression and drinking...Well, I suffer from depression/bipolar as well and it's a medical fact that those of us that do often self medicate with alcohol or drugs so...I understand why.

Everything you have said in your post on your profile in your answers in this thread indicate you have an alcohol problem. The mere fact that you drink to cope is the most telling of all. We will help and guide you on a path to sobriety, but you must have the courage to hear the truth. If someone rattles your chains it's because they have been there and they know what you're talking about. They care about you and they tell you the truth as their experience has taught them. We could all tell you your great your ok life is wonderful but the truth is there are signals in everything you have written and we are just trying to help you face the reality of your problem.
For instance your profile says you need meds but can't afford them. How is it that you can afford beer? I know it seems cheaper but in the long run is it?
We have all faced many tragedies in our lives what we have learned is that alcohol never makes any of them get better or go away. There is a solution if you are willing to ask for and accept our help.
Until then God Bless

hope you are ok starzz ...thoughts and prayers with you :)

Hi Starzz- Welcome. Way to go on 33 days. That shows that you can quit all together if you feel the need.

As far as controlled drinking...I tried that...for 10 days while I was on vacation. I had 15 drinks in those 10 days, and before that, I would have had 15 drinks in 3 days (2 if I am completely honest lol). Then I got back to my home town and tried that and before I knew it...I was right back in the hole I had drank myself into.

If you think you have a drinking problem than you probably do...or at least that was my experience. And even though we have all been down pretty much the same road, we all meandered off the path here and there.

My suggestion would be to hit an AA meeting and listen to the stories and shares from the people in it. I bet you find similarities.

And as far as things that piss you off in here...it happens sometimes...especially when a statement hits a vein of truth. Just take what you want and leave the rest and try and remember that MOST people in here only want to help. And some of us are a bit more stubborn than others and we require a bit harsher tone to make us see our truths.

Again, I only speak of MY experience, and I am here to share my strength and hope with you.

Good luck.