Alcoholism Support Group

Just know that your sponsor has supported you but YOU have been the strong one in choosing not to drink. She helps you but you have the strength and power in this - not her. I think you are looking for a reason to drink. Recognize this. We all try to sabotage our sobriety at times. See that you are capable and worthy to continue to make good choices with your sobriety.

In my exp and that is all I have to draw from this is my 4th time in aa this time the sponsor i was given took me right the 12 steps and got me God dependent. Thank god for that cause when i was sober about a yr that very same sponsor got drunk for failing to perfect and enlarge hi spiritual life. His sponsor then became my sponsor. SO my main question would be where the heck are you in the 12 steps. what step are you on? In my exp by living these steps and taking others thru them I have been given the ability to avert misery and death. I recovered from alcholism and now this month will be 8yrs back and strong in helping others to be god dependent thru the 12 steps.

Early sobriety is such a scary time because we are literally stripping away our entire belief system and it leaves us feeling naked and vulnerable. It only makes sense that you would want to feel connected to your sponsor. It is important to remind yourself, however, that the quality of your sobriety is contingent on you and the effort you put into it...not your sponsor. Thank goodness she is there for you...but thank goodness you are there for you, too! (And don't forget about your higher power and AA as a whole. We are here, too. You are definitely not alone at any time.)

I really recommend that you continue to reach out and make friends in the fellowship that you feel you can count on. Your sponsor won't be able to be there all the time and it is important you have a social network to fall back on that can support you in a healthy way. It takes time to do this, but rest assured, you can do it. You will find nurturing friendships in AA that will last a lifetime.

Hang in there, sweetie. You are going to be just fine. *hug*

My sponsor told me to call another alcoholic when I couldn't reach him. Not only are you helping yourself you are helping another. Your higher powe rshould be a help to you, lean on it.

Alice, do you have other women's phone #'s from your group? If so, call one of them! If not, call the AA Hotline. They will connect you with someone who can help.

Above all else, get to a meeting. Your sponsor is not keeping you sober, your higher power is. Have faith in that.

Thanks for you all replying so fast and kindly,
yes i am looking for a reason to drink dreaming i do all the time its amazing i not had one for 18 months and that is good choices i have made.
im not dependant on god phil cause everytime i get to the stage where i think of god i get ill and it puts me off. i am doing steps best i can and done them all so far.but i thinking of not bothering anymore, i am incapable of being honest and im not getting any better at it, so i think im one of the few beyond help.

i dont have any womens numbers, there are no sober women here, the helpline here is run soley by the men cause they only ones sober long enough to do it, its not ideal i know, but there isnt anything else except drinking with my old friends which seems appealing at the moment.
i will ring one of the men from my group.

You're sober. You're not beyond help. Just because you're afraid of something doesn't mean it is true.

For many years in AA, my higher power was the fellowship. I believed with my heart and my soul that AA worked and that if I continued to go and do the do things, that I would stay sober. And you know what? I did stay sober. I started to feel better. My life improved. This can happen for you, too. Just become willing to let the miracle happen.

You are still under 2 years in, Alice. It is really normal to feel the way you are. Not everyone recovers at the same pace, so, I hope you're not comparing yourself to other people. Your body is still healing. So is your mind. I see from your profile that you have other issues you're dealing with, too. This can complicate recovery but it doesn't have to undermine it. I hope you're getting outside help that you feel is supportive.

You are a miracle, Alice. You are a child of light, and you deserve to be happy and well. There is no reason you can't find this in your life. Keep doing the do things and don't give up on yourself. As they say in AA, don't leave 5 minutes before the miracle happens.

Get some back up people like your sponsors sponsor and some of her other sponsees or other people you respect in the program. Go to more meetings when she is gone and share what is going on if you need to. Help is always there if you are hanest, willing and openminded enough to ask for it.

It's ok to be scared. Just know that the feeling of being scared is not going to hurt you but drinking will.

Reed made a great suggestion about connecting with other alcoholics through your sponsors' other sponcees, etc. Do your best not to isolate Alice. Make sure you tell your sponsor about how you are feeling when she's gone.

I'm happy to talk with you anytime. Feel free to contact me.