Alcoholism Support Group

To a brother in pain...
this is when we go to our knees and bow our heads.

For me, wanting a quick fix caused me to fail. I would become disappointed in myself and it took realizing that's not possible to get clean. I have relapsed many times. I think like you mentioned.. everything takes one day at a time. But alcohol is a matter of life and death on a spiritual realm and in the physical. I can't really compare the details of normal living to alcoholism. I guess that's why many people say that with the drink, we have to take it minute by minute.

Rum,

You name me one person on this site who has done everything perfect, and I will show you Jesus. Fact of the matter is, we all make mistakes. Be it mistakes that involve drinking, or somewhere else in our living -- this is something we are just gonna do.

Early on I learned that God's will for my life was for me to keep sober. When I ride in the lane that He has made from me; things are cool. It is when I attempt to get outside what his will is for me, that I begin to expereince abnormal troubles.

I think that I will live my life in His will for me, today. So far, things are going pretty good.

Darrell

Get a job, quit being self-indulgent, being honest with yourself & others, stop being selfish, care about someone else other than yourself, pray to whatever high power you may believe in, and quit being cruel & playing & promising to others what you can't deliver. Yeah,,, I think that covers the "living ammends & living better. Oh did I say honesty...(one more time)--Your truth is you don't want to be sober you just want to play at it...have the fortitude to ummm say be honest about that too ...yep works for me.

Hey there rr. After 44 Years of living in my disease of alcholism, I became willing to do whatever it took to stay sober. Part of my journey in staying sober was to beable to forgive myself for all I had done before
I stopped Drinking. I learned that in order for others to beable to forgive me I had to beable to forgive myself.
I have sense gone back to all that I have been able to at this point and made amends. Thefre are still many more left, but I will make those as I am able.
If it sounds like maybe I am in AA it is because I am as that is what worked for me. I tried to "Do It On My Own" hundreds of times, that didn't work. I tried stopping through religion and that didn't work either. I then turned to AA and was fortunate enough to get a good sponser that had me work the steps in the way they were meant to be worked out of the BB of AA. That indeed worked for me. The relief I have gotten since then is unimagineable. I have lost the obsession to drink and today I am free from the ghost's of my past, the worst one being myself.
I hope that you are able to find a way to get and stay sober that works for you. I know that if you become willing and work the 12 steps of AA that it can work for you there. I wish you well on your journey. Go Well and God Bless

4AASunny, if I cared about myself, really, would I continue do harm to myself?

And in order to love or care for someone else, it has to start with me first.

People that come in here and preach like you are the almighty god are the ones that are one thought from falling off.

You can quit with your know it all BS, really.

I don't have any quick fixes for anything any more. And I still struggle and occasionally fail, but I think I'm beginning to see what is important in my life.

I've had to re-think my life, and stop looking for the next thrill all the time. The grass isn't always greener over the next hill, the next drink won't cure me, nor will the next hamburger, drug, sexual experiance, or whatever. These things are a part of life, but I cannot let them rule me. I won't be a slave to my appetites any longer, or I'll just be a puppet on a string.

You need to get out of the ratrace for awhile with no distractions - find something that you enjoy. Just my 2 cents.

That is what I believe alot of us want....that quick fix. Let me go to sleep and when I wake up everything would be grand.

I lived in a fantasy world where I thought that one day the magic would happen. My life would be in order and my hopes and dreams would come true.

Sorry to say it don't work like that.

You say that life is what it is, and you can't control it. But you can control your actions. The choices you make are your to deal with. If you decide to drink, you must pay the consequences which sound alot like me when I did....self-pity. Woe is me, when is my life going to get better.

I started out with baby steps. First....I stopped drinking. Then I got a job. You know the first job I got when I began this journey was working for minimum wage....$5.15/hr at that time. My paychecks were $180 a week and $125 went to child support, but I did the best I could. And no drinking. Life got better as I took each baby step.

A better life is out there...go for it. It is far beyond what I could have imagined.

Sounds like your good to go. All anwsers and no action...hmmmm, don't feel like I'm falling..but yep I do have grace :-)

Rum,

Do you know God accepts you as you are? Seek Him.