Alcoholism Support Group

The two big things in my life have been AA and the 12 steps and therapy. They have given me space to be angry and sad and depressed and express how I feel. Having someone to listen to me who is separate from my life and is willing to let me be how I need to be.

They have also given me a place to learn how to deal with my feelings and how to have less extreme and more appropriate feelings. I have lots more tools to help me in life than I ever had before. I dont need substances or behaviours to shield me from life or my emotions.

I dont think there are any instant fixes that work. I was looking for quick fixes with alcohol and certain behaviours and it just made things worse. The only things that I have found that really change things take work and often make a difference slowly but are more than worth it in the end. Does sound like you need someone to talk to who is outside your life and will give you the space and help you need.

Y'know what? I don't think you really want advice at all. I think you just want one of us to say something so offensive to your sufferin' self that you'll HAVE to drink over it. So let me hasten to assure you that we're not amateurs and we know the game you're playing better than you do. Heck, we invented it and we know those pity-pot payoffs by heart, chapter & verse. So even if honesty isn't an option yet, a little originality would help your cause immensely.

Interesting that putting alcohol in is replaced by keeping food out as your illusion of a solution to order and manage your emotions.
Find your balance.

I stopped running. I faced my fears-I embraced all the shit and wonderfulness. I work daily at seeing the illusions of these fears.

I believe maybe you are terrified-stop running. Face your crap head on. How? I cannot say there is one avenue towards truth-but there are many suggestions from folks here. Try one.

drinking is full of caloric counts....so to say you will get fat I would say belly by budweiser is worse than eating enough good food to keep healthy

Fancyrunner...1st I learned that the real problem is ME. 2nd I get angry cause I DON'T GET MY WAY wawawawa I act like a baby in a wet diaper waiting for someone to come change me.(or i going drink) 3rd I begin to practice HONESTY. not to anyone but to myself. 4th i accept responsibility for where i am. (no blame, no justification, no rationalization no if's, ands or becauses) After this I am left with the PROBLEM ME.
Really I've come to understand that although many people care for me that is not the magic.The magic is I CARE ABOUT ME. you wanna know what I do to solve problems?????? I don't drink or use NO MATTER whAT!!!! i learned that Anger is a choice. It has a big price tag and i have a small budget these days not willing to pay the price... (severed relationships, loneliness just to mention a couple pricetags) I leaarned that there is nobody on Gods greeen earth that can change my attitude but me. I shout for help but don't listen because I love to hear me whine. Not even listen to those with the solution. It gets comfortable in the crap, just resting up to do it again. All of our storries are the same. you battle anorexica, I battle the lost of a grandchild to cancer, you wanna be left alone to do what you know best,.I want to be left alone to do what i know best. the only difference is i learned better coping skills. Bottom line is this.....there is two waays to live 1- in harmony with the universe or 2- fighting everything and everyone. By what you've shared sounds like 2. Come over to the winning side.

thanks for your messages. no games, i just wanted to know what people do in moments of weakness. some days are good, some are bad. today was bad, wanted to snap and break down but i didnt.

someone once told me "We never never never give up!!" If your a#s is falling off put it in a paper bag and bring it to a meeting and ask someone how to sit.everything will be okay in the end, if it's not okay then it's the end. The games end when you put down the toys and pick up the tools. Thank God for bad moments because there was once only bad DAYS. ALOHA

Start walking!!!

The reality is that alcohol NEVER solved my problems, it just created them. I was full of rage when I first got sober and yet I couldn't see it so I continued to huirt myself because the rage was inside me without escape. eventually, I had to get the help that I needed in order to recover and live a sober, happy and productive life.

Your boyfriend is on a hiding to nothing if he thinks that he can stop you drinking. You are on a hiding to nothing if you think you can carry on the way that you are. So you need to put a plan in place that is a method by which you can get and stay sober for good. Then you need to find the help that you need with regards to your eating disorder and other emotional problems. You probably would do better if you were not in a relationship - you are incapable of having a relationship with yourself let alone someone else.

If you do these things you might then get the balanced life that you so obviously need. Feel free to pm me is you think I can help in any way.

lyn